My brain brings up points like “people with more money have more opportunities to do bad things, like buying drugs or bribing others,” and “if you truly did get more money, people would judge you as a bad person for it.”
I think this is quite common (having such thoughts). I suspect that the actual reason is your brain thinking: “if I get more money than is usual in my current social group, I will be different and become an outcast”.
I mean, imagine that your current good friends are millionaires. Would you still feel bad about becoming a millionaire? Or would it be normal and desirable to be on their level?
public speaking … definitely scary to me
Start with lower stakes. For me, the first was talking at a local sci-fi convention about some silly topic. And yes, that felt scary too, but after receiving positive feedback I gradually got more confident. It helps if you have a friend in the audience (you can imagine that you are talking for the friend).
Ah, speaking at a convention or a similar environment seems like a good idea, I have opportunities like that I can immediately think of.
Can you elaborate on the usefulness of public speaking, though? You mentioned gaining status, and I could see that as somewhat useful for making myself more well-known → gaining connections → being offered better opportunities, but there’s probably uses for it or consequences of it that I haven’t thought of.
Just a quick summary of what comes to my mind, there is probably more:
every speech is an opportunity to advertise your products/services
giving speech on X makes you “an expert on X” in the eyes of the audience
possible transition to making videos?
when you socialize after giving the speech, you are no longer a stranger
1) Suppose you made a few video games and you are selling them. Or you are offering a paid course of Python for beginners, or perhaps an expensive individual tutoring on making games in Python. In other words, you have a product/service to sell. Now whenever people pay attention to you, a certain fraction of them later buys your service/product. Giving a speech is a way to get attention of hundred people for an hour. Not just random people, but people interested in the topic you are talking about. Think how much it would cost, if you tried to buy the same amount × quality of attention using ads.
However, unlike ads, this type of advertising is not obnoxious (unless you make it so). The people have decided on their own to listen to you talking on given topic. If the topic is e.g. making games in Python, it is only natural to mention the games you made, as long as you say something interesting about them (“in my first game, Crappy Birds, I used a quantum algorithm for polygon collision, and it improved the performance by 80%”). It is also natural to be introduced as “XY, author of ‘learn Python in 7 minutes’ online course”. Have a homepage that contains more information about the topic (but also links to buy your products and services), so that its URL can be mentioned in a schedule.
(In context of sci-fi conventions, it is often authors giving speeches on various topics. They don’t even have to mention their books explicitly, if you introduce someone as a “sci-fi author” to an audience of sci-fi fans, they will naturally be curious.)
2) By making a speech on X, you are associated in minds of your audience with X. If you made a speech about Python, if they later need to have something done in Python, they may remember your name and offer you a contract. There may be hundred other people in the same room who also know Python, maybe much better than you, but they are anonymous.
3) I am not sure about this part, but some people made careers making YouTube videos. A few of them can make money from ad views alone. But I assume that there are many more for whom the strategy is more like “watch my videos, and then buy my book on the same topic” (the book is mentioned in the videos). Or “watch my videos, and donate to my Patreon”. Or both. Or more… some people are completely shameless: they have YouTube ads in their videos and product placement in their videos and a Patreon account and they sell a book and they sell courses (and I bet the story does not end here). Ahem… backtracking to the original topic, I assume that good speaking skills can be also useful to make good videos. (But you will need some extra skills, like using the camera, lighting, etc.) The simplest way is to hire someone to record the speech you made to a live audience.
4) After giving a great speech, most people in the audience would probably be happy to socialize with you. So if there is someone interesting, just approach them and say “hello”. Much easier because you do not have to introduce yourself, and you already have a shared interest.
...okay, maybe I oversold it now. I never had a product/service to sell, so I am not speaking from my experience. But this is how I imagine it should work. ;)
I think this is quite common (having such thoughts). I suspect that the actual reason is your brain thinking: “if I get more money than is usual in my current social group, I will be different and become an outcast”.
I mean, imagine that your current good friends are millionaires. Would you still feel bad about becoming a millionaire? Or would it be normal and desirable to be on their level?
Start with lower stakes. For me, the first was talking at a local sci-fi convention about some silly topic. And yes, that felt scary too, but after receiving positive feedback I gradually got more confident. It helps if you have a friend in the audience (you can imagine that you are talking for the friend).
Some people recommend Toastmasters.
Ah, speaking at a convention or a similar environment seems like a good idea, I have opportunities like that I can immediately think of.
Can you elaborate on the usefulness of public speaking, though? You mentioned gaining status, and I could see that as somewhat useful for making myself more well-known → gaining connections → being offered better opportunities, but there’s probably uses for it or consequences of it that I haven’t thought of.
Just a quick summary of what comes to my mind, there is probably more:
every speech is an opportunity to advertise your products/services
giving speech on X makes you “an expert on X” in the eyes of the audience
possible transition to making videos?
when you socialize after giving the speech, you are no longer a stranger
1) Suppose you made a few video games and you are selling them. Or you are offering a paid course of Python for beginners, or perhaps an expensive individual tutoring on making games in Python. In other words, you have a product/service to sell. Now whenever people pay attention to you, a certain fraction of them later buys your service/product. Giving a speech is a way to get attention of hundred people for an hour. Not just random people, but people interested in the topic you are talking about. Think how much it would cost, if you tried to buy the same amount × quality of attention using ads.
However, unlike ads, this type of advertising is not obnoxious (unless you make it so). The people have decided on their own to listen to you talking on given topic. If the topic is e.g. making games in Python, it is only natural to mention the games you made, as long as you say something interesting about them (“in my first game, Crappy Birds, I used a quantum algorithm for polygon collision, and it improved the performance by 80%”). It is also natural to be introduced as “XY, author of ‘learn Python in 7 minutes’ online course”. Have a homepage that contains more information about the topic (but also links to buy your products and services), so that its URL can be mentioned in a schedule.
(In context of sci-fi conventions, it is often authors giving speeches on various topics. They don’t even have to mention their books explicitly, if you introduce someone as a “sci-fi author” to an audience of sci-fi fans, they will naturally be curious.)
2) By making a speech on X, you are associated in minds of your audience with X. If you made a speech about Python, if they later need to have something done in Python, they may remember your name and offer you a contract. There may be hundred other people in the same room who also know Python, maybe much better than you, but they are anonymous.
3) I am not sure about this part, but some people made careers making YouTube videos. A few of them can make money from ad views alone. But I assume that there are many more for whom the strategy is more like “watch my videos, and then buy my book on the same topic” (the book is mentioned in the videos). Or “watch my videos, and donate to my Patreon”. Or both. Or more… some people are completely shameless: they have YouTube ads in their videos and product placement in their videos and a Patreon account and they sell a book and they sell courses (and I bet the story does not end here). Ahem… backtracking to the original topic, I assume that good speaking skills can be also useful to make good videos. (But you will need some extra skills, like using the camera, lighting, etc.) The simplest way is to hire someone to record the speech you made to a live audience.
4) After giving a great speech, most people in the audience would probably be happy to socialize with you. So if there is someone interesting, just approach them and say “hello”. Much easier because you do not have to introduce yourself, and you already have a shared interest.
...okay, maybe I oversold it now. I never had a product/service to sell, so I am not speaking from my experience. But this is how I imagine it should work. ;)