I’ve mostly figured out how to turn unrequited love off, but I suspect it won’t work for most people (like many similar techniques).
Short version: One of the more common effects of infatuation is a blindness to the person’s flaws. Sort of like anosognosia, but for someone else’s personality instead of one’s own body. To get rid of unwanted unrequited love, force yourself to make a list of the person’s significant character flaws. Everyone has them, but they’re really hard to notice in a crush.
For me, usually just making the list is enough to turn the fuck-like hurting into something more manageable, but reading it over and over has been necessary in a couple of exceptional cases.
I’ve mostly figured out how to turn unrequited love off, but I suspect it won’t work for most people (like many similar techniques).
Short version: One of the more common effects of infatuation is a blindness to the person’s flaws. Sort of like anosognosia, but for someone else’s personality instead of one’s own body. To get rid of unwanted unrequited love, force yourself to make a list of the person’s significant character flaws. Everyone has them, but they’re really hard to notice in a crush.
For me, usually just making the list is enough to turn the fuck-like hurting into something more manageable, but reading it over and over has been necessary in a couple of exceptional cases.
I’ve tried this technique and it works for me somewhat, but it’s not enough and I still want a drug.
Oh, agreed. Self-modification should be easier than it is.
Are you still planning on writing a post about jealousy?
I haven’t had the time/energy to get much writing done lately, but that post will exist at some point, and hopefully sooner than later.