Option 2: Fortunately, you only have to threaten yourself with enough failure to motivate coordination. You’re allowed to try to get your life back in shape, so long as the recovery process is slow and painful enough that the threat remains credible! Be careful, though: if you’re trying to “put yourself together” by reconstructing treaty-type negotiations, you can’t get too good at snapping back into shape, or you threaten your ability to threaten yourself!
Option 3: Well, that was pretty bad. Maybe try fusion-type coordination this time? You know, not self-punish? Build healthy habits, don’t limit yourself by what you think you can’t do, maybe get therapy or at least listen to audiobooks about cognitive behavioral therapy—whatever you can manage.
Option 4: You may already be a winner. Perhaps you were 100% right to avoid taking classes. keep following your intrinsic motivation. Stop justifying it in terms of what you can’t do. Stop feeling guilty about it. Just ask yourself what you really want to do in any situation, and do it. You may be afraid that this will turn you into a sociopath or a slob, but if you really fear those things, you’re already motivated not to do them, at some level. Some people have found that giving up on the “shoulds” causes that motivation to re-surface, so that things start falling into place. Maybe try it for a time-boxed period, like a week.
Option 1: Fail with abandon. Spiral into depression.
Option 2: Fortunately, you only have to threaten yourself with enough failure to motivate coordination. You’re allowed to try to get your life back in shape, so long as the recovery process is slow and painful enough that the threat remains credible! Be careful, though: if you’re trying to “put yourself together” by reconstructing treaty-type negotiations, you can’t get too good at snapping back into shape, or you threaten your ability to threaten yourself!
Option 3: Well, that was pretty bad. Maybe try fusion-type coordination this time? You know, not self-punish? Build healthy habits, don’t limit yourself by what you think you can’t do, maybe get therapy or at least listen to audiobooks about cognitive behavioral therapy—whatever you can manage.
Option 4: You may already be a winner. Perhaps you were 100% right to avoid taking classes. keep following your intrinsic motivation. Stop justifying it in terms of what you can’t do. Stop feeling guilty about it. Just ask yourself what you really want to do in any situation, and do it. You may be afraid that this will turn you into a sociopath or a slob, but if you really fear those things, you’re already motivated not to do them, at some level. Some people have found that giving up on the “shoulds” causes that motivation to re-surface, so that things start falling into place. Maybe try it for a time-boxed period, like a week.