One aspect that complicates the situation with the sports and music fans is an unwillingness to kick people when they are down.
The grieving student, or a student who was sick (even slightly sick, could have still got the report in but at a utility cost) are both people for whom we feel bad.
In contrast your example of the music fan is different. Or the example of a student who says “Last night a Billionaire’s experimental utility AI calculated that giving me a surprise trip to space in a rocket would be worth 10^7 utility points. So I missed the deadline while I was in orbit.” [You can add extra awesome to the example however you like]. In this case we are not at all surprised they missed the deadline, but maybe would be happy to punish, on the basis “meh, the 10^7 utility points you got yesterday aren’t going to be scratched by the −100 for failing this course”.
One aspect that complicates the situation with the sports and music fans is an unwillingness to kick people when they are down.
The grieving student, or a student who was sick (even slightly sick, could have still got the report in but at a utility cost) are both people for whom we feel bad.
In contrast your example of the music fan is different. Or the example of a student who says “Last night a Billionaire’s experimental utility AI calculated that giving me a surprise trip to space in a rocket would be worth 10^7 utility points. So I missed the deadline while I was in orbit.” [You can add extra awesome to the example however you like]. In this case we are not at all surprised they missed the deadline, but maybe would be happy to punish, on the basis “meh, the 10^7 utility points you got yesterday aren’t going to be scratched by the −100 for failing this course”.