I think for most people there is diminishing marginal benefit to having each additional friend.
That’s probably true; the quality of each relationship decreases if one tries to add more and spend equal amounts of time and energy on each.
If...you can find many people to spend time with who can accept you for who you are then you should indeed be truthful and open about your atheism...
Probably poorly explained by me, I do have a handful of friends in this category. We get together a few times per month, still have a great time together, and pretty much leave religion alone even though they know very well where I stand. Probably 2 of this handful are very close.
Even then, though, there is something missing, as I don’t even like to talk about the “meta” issues brought about by non-belief (mental anguish, difficulties in marriage, etc.) -- it’s easier to do this with non-believers.
I’d actually love to find a “new-best-friend” who is a non-believer, or at least “try it out” if that can be done...
I read the article. Tough situation as well. I can see where you’re coming from. I think I’d think twice if my job or livelihood were at stake. And I do—I stay fairly anonymous online and have never mentioned my employer as I would never want anything somehow tracked back to me by the work arena.
While the social arena is uncomfortable, this is a scenario where I just don’t know if I could live in silence or acquiescence when it comes to actions. I can keep my mouth closed for sure… but to actually “play house” when it comes to things like participating in Mass, singing praise and worship, praying, saying “Amen,” and the like… I don’t think that’s in the same category as being docile and hospitable to contrary opinions.
That’s probably true; the quality of each relationship decreases if one tries to add more and spend equal amounts of time and energy on each.
Probably poorly explained by me, I do have a handful of friends in this category. We get together a few times per month, still have a great time together, and pretty much leave religion alone even though they know very well where I stand. Probably 2 of this handful are very close.
Even then, though, there is something missing, as I don’t even like to talk about the “meta” issues brought about by non-belief (mental anguish, difficulties in marriage, etc.) -- it’s easier to do this with non-believers.
I’d actually love to find a “new-best-friend” who is a non-believer, or at least “try it out” if that can be done...
I read the article. Tough situation as well. I can see where you’re coming from. I think I’d think twice if my job or livelihood were at stake. And I do—I stay fairly anonymous online and have never mentioned my employer as I would never want anything somehow tracked back to me by the work arena.
While the social arena is uncomfortable, this is a scenario where I just don’t know if I could live in silence or acquiescence when it comes to actions. I can keep my mouth closed for sure… but to actually “play house” when it comes to things like participating in Mass, singing praise and worship, praying, saying “Amen,” and the like… I don’t think that’s in the same category as being docile and hospitable to contrary opinions.