I didn’t downvote either, but I can see possible reasons why others might. This probably should have been a question post. [This has been fixed.] The question is too broad to answer very succinctly. It kind of feels like it could be a culture-war trap, where you might take a good-faith, but bluntly-honest rationalist answer and use it as ammunition in extremist feminist circles to rally attacks against the community. The fact that your account has no other posts or karma is not helping. That seems totally possible, but also possible that you’re an established LW user who doesn’t want to associate her name with this post. Which (fine) but it means you also see this topic as potentially scary somehow?
I’m a bit more willing than most to engage in sensitive topics on LW when I have something to say, at least as long as they’re discussed in good faith with high epistemic standards, because I think that’s necessary for society to function. The risk must be taken. I come here for the standards, not just the topics.
It kind of feels like it could be a culture-war trap, where you might take a good-faith, but bluntly-honest rationalist answer and use it as ammunition in extremist feminist circles to rally attacks against the community.
Oof, it really isn’t but I can imagine why someone might think that.
The fact that your account has no other posts or karma is not helping. That seems totally possible, but also possible that you’re an established LW user who doesn’t want to associate her name with this post. Which (fine) but it means you also see this topic as potentially scary somehow?
I don’t see the topic as scary in any culture-war-adjacent way. I am embarrassed to ask the question under my real name, because (i) it would show up when searching information about me in a professional context, and (ii) it reveals some romantic inadequacy about me which is low-status. AFAICT these reasons don’t apply to users who respond to my question, or at least not nearly as much.
I didn’t downvote either, but I can see possible reasons why others might. This probably should have been a question post. [This has been fixed.] The question is too broad to answer very succinctly. It kind of feels like it could be a culture-war trap, where you might take a good-faith, but bluntly-honest rationalist answer and use it as ammunition in extremist feminist circles to rally attacks against the community. The fact that your account has no other posts or karma is not helping. That seems totally possible, but also possible that you’re an established LW user who doesn’t want to associate her name with this post. Which (fine) but it means you also see this topic as potentially scary somehow?
I’m a bit more willing than most to engage in sensitive topics on LW when I have something to say, at least as long as they’re discussed in good faith with high epistemic standards, because I think that’s necessary for society to function. The risk must be taken. I come here for the standards, not just the topics.
Oof, it really isn’t but I can imagine why someone might think that.
I don’t see the topic as scary in any culture-war-adjacent way. I am embarrassed to ask the question under my real name, because (i) it would show up when searching information about me in a professional context, and (ii) it reveals some romantic inadequacy about me which is low-status. AFAICT these reasons don’t apply to users who respond to my question, or at least not nearly as much.