I think a good analogy to long term relationship and short term hookup is that you are basically interviewing for different job positions with different responsibilities and skill sets. For some people, they don’t have any requirements or have very little requirements while others have more. How much each position overlaps depends on the individual and probably upbringing based on their own parents’ lifestyle. If they like their parents’ dynamics, then they know exactly what they want for long term. If they don’t, then they don’t really know and have to basically sort of “find themselves” first. If you reject your upbringing, then you have to go on a personal journey at some point because once you reject everything that you have, you have nothing. This usually happens early in life as the rebellious phase of the teenage years is when a child starts to question everything they’ve come to take for granted up until now. The thing with long term relationship is that people don’t really explore who they are in terms of this until much later in life when they have to settle down. The problem is that they can’t afford to explore at that point in life. If you don’t like something it’s not something that you can just easily throw away like some short term fling.
I think people should be taught life long responsibilities early so they know what to look out for at each step in life. It’s hard to gauge how much you should focus on for the small picture if you don’t have a big picture of the whole thing. I wonder if most parents teach their kids this stuff or maybe they don’t even know about this themselves.
I think a good analogy to long term relationship and short term hookup is that you are basically interviewing for different job positions with different responsibilities and skill sets. For some people, they don’t have any requirements or have very little requirements while others have more. How much each position overlaps depends on the individual and probably upbringing based on their own parents’ lifestyle. If they like their parents’ dynamics, then they know exactly what they want for long term. If they don’t, then they don’t really know and have to basically sort of “find themselves” first. If you reject your upbringing, then you have to go on a personal journey at some point because once you reject everything that you have, you have nothing. This usually happens early in life as the rebellious phase of the teenage years is when a child starts to question everything they’ve come to take for granted up until now. The thing with long term relationship is that people don’t really explore who they are in terms of this until much later in life when they have to settle down. The problem is that they can’t afford to explore at that point in life. If you don’t like something it’s not something that you can just easily throw away like some short term fling.
I think people should be taught life long responsibilities early so they know what to look out for at each step in life. It’s hard to gauge how much you should focus on for the small picture if you don’t have a big picture of the whole thing. I wonder if most parents teach their kids this stuff or maybe they don’t even know about this themselves.