I agree that monologuing is a potential problem, but I disagree that virtuous monologuing with an interested audiance is so rare that it should be called a “black swan event”. Differentiating between good and bad monologuing is important, and OP did describe some good ways of doing so.
But is the OP really saying something so strict?
I think you may have an exaggerated sense of my level of disagreement with the OP.
It depends a lot on the social context. But I’ve rarely seen a moderated discussion where it was highly functional for a member of the audience to speak for 60% (or even 40%) of the discussion time.
Great feedback, guys. I added 2 paragraphs to clarify. (One below the bullet list of how to identify a monopolizer, the other below the italicized paragraph of what to say after the event.) Let me know what you think.
And I have another post in the works focused on getting quiet people to join in the conversation.
I agree that monologuing is a potential problem, but I disagree that virtuous monologuing with an interested audiance is so rare that it should be called a “black swan event”. Differentiating between good and bad monologuing is important, and OP did describe some good ways of doing so.
I think you may have an exaggerated sense of my level of disagreement with the OP.
It depends a lot on the social context. But I’ve rarely seen a moderated discussion where it was highly functional for a member of the audience to speak for 60% (or even 40%) of the discussion time.
Great feedback, guys. I added 2 paragraphs to clarify. (One below the bullet list of how to identify a monopolizer, the other below the italicized paragraph of what to say after the event.) Let me know what you think.
And I have another post in the works focused on getting quiet people to join in the conversation.