Personal experience. I tend to like hearing less detail than people want to give, and it’s difficult to get them to summarize.
People don’t generally ask me to change my detail level—I don’t know whether I’m in a sweet spot, the tolerable range, or (as I strongly suspect) most people are much more inhibited about asking for a different detail level than I am.
If you ever figure out any tricks to get others to change, I’d be interested—I run in to the same problem :)
Conversely, I do get a fair number of requests to change my own detail level: I tend to strongly encourage people to ask for elaboration as needed, so I do get a fair number of “requests for additional detail”. And occasionally I’ll have someone cut me off for having answered a question they didn’t intend (i.e. “I meant, what color is it?”). I’ve found demonstrating positive/happy body language in these situations, and verbally reinforcing that I like this, has made people do that more often.
It may also be a specific, rather than a general inhibition: if someone responded to me in a way that made me believe they wanted less detail than I was providing, I would not be inclined to ask them for more details about their answers even if I wanted more information than that in general.
Personal experience. I tend to like hearing less detail than people want to give, and it’s difficult to get them to summarize.
People don’t generally ask me to change my detail level—I don’t know whether I’m in a sweet spot, the tolerable range, or (as I strongly suspect) most people are much more inhibited about asking for a different detail level than I am.
If you ever figure out any tricks to get others to change, I’d be interested—I run in to the same problem :)
Conversely, I do get a fair number of requests to change my own detail level: I tend to strongly encourage people to ask for elaboration as needed, so I do get a fair number of “requests for additional detail”. And occasionally I’ll have someone cut me off for having answered a question they didn’t intend (i.e. “I meant, what color is it?”). I’ve found demonstrating positive/happy body language in these situations, and verbally reinforcing that I like this, has made people do that more often.
It may also be a specific, rather than a general inhibition: if someone responded to me in a way that made me believe they wanted less detail than I was providing, I would not be inclined to ask them for more details about their answers even if I wanted more information than that in general.