I began this experiment 9 years ago. I only wrote down whether the decisions were right or wrong so I have no record of what the decisions are.
From what I remember, most of the decisions involved socializing. Perhaps half of the decisions involved starting conversations with people (I was afraid of bothering them). Many involved attending social events. I was in college at the time so some of them involved putting together study groups. At least one was whether to ask someone out on a date.
I consistently underestimated the rewards and overestimated the risks of reaching out to others. I wasn’t too worried about personal embarrassment. Rather, I was worried that I would bother other people and worsen their days. This almost never happened. In the rare cases where I did bother someone a little the effect was small.
Seconded. Any examples of decisions the OP would be okay with sharing I’d find useful. I’m especially curious about the factors that made it seem clear in retrospect which was the “right” option.
In every case the “scary” option was the riskier one, so I always had high confidence in what would happen if I chickened out. I compared that to what actually happened when I took what seemed like a riskier option.
I’m curious if you’re willing to share the 30 decisions, or at least ones that aren’t too personal?
I began this experiment 9 years ago. I only wrote down whether the decisions were right or wrong so I have no record of what the decisions are.
From what I remember, most of the decisions involved socializing. Perhaps half of the decisions involved starting conversations with people (I was afraid of bothering them). Many involved attending social events. I was in college at the time so some of them involved putting together study groups. At least one was whether to ask someone out on a date.
I consistently underestimated the rewards and overestimated the risks of reaching out to others. I wasn’t too worried about personal embarrassment. Rather, I was worried that I would bother other people and worsen their days. This almost never happened. In the rare cases where I did bother someone a little the effect was small.
Seconded. Any examples of decisions the OP would be okay with sharing I’d find useful. I’m especially curious about the factors that made it seem clear in retrospect which was the “right” option.
In every case the “scary” option was the riskier one, so I always had high confidence in what would happen if I chickened out. I compared that to what actually happened when I took what seemed like a riskier option.