If you have to much theory in your head but bad social skills you are likely to analyse the situation in which you are intellectually. As a result your body language might give off signs that you aren’t present. Reactions in your face are slightly delayed.
As far as I’m aware ideas like “conceptualize offense as a grab for status” are not strongly evidence based. Of course that doesn’t mean that it has to be wrong. There probably some writing in the pickup field that slashes out ideas like that in more detail.
Yeah. I’ve always found (in other areas) , having a good handle on the theory and concepts involved allows me to grasp it intuitively and apply my knowledge better. I guess in soft science , the theory might be a bit more conjectural. Any writings in particular you think of? Thanks in advance.
When it comes to social situations, normal people have certain emotional reactions to specific stimuli and react based on those stimula. Having theories in your head can reduce you from having natural reactions and acting them out.
I generally think that Friedemann Schulz von Thun model of communication is underappreciated in the Anglo-American discourse.
We covered the model in school in Germany and later when I went to Toastmasters two separate people hold speeches on it. At my university I had a course about personal development by a computer science professor that also covered the model of Schulz von Thun.
Apart from that there isn’t specific writing that I would recommend, but other might have recommendations.
If you have to much theory in your head but bad social skills you are likely to analyse the situation in which you are intellectually. As a result your body language might give off signs that you aren’t present. Reactions in your face are slightly delayed.
As far as I’m aware ideas like “conceptualize offense as a grab for status” are not strongly evidence based. Of course that doesn’t mean that it has to be wrong. There probably some writing in the pickup field that slashes out ideas like that in more detail.
Yeah. I’ve always found (in other areas) , having a good handle on the theory and concepts involved allows me to grasp it intuitively and apply my knowledge better. I guess in soft science , the theory might be a bit more conjectural. Any writings in particular you think of? Thanks in advance.
When it comes to social situations, normal people have certain emotional reactions to specific stimuli and react based on those stimula. Having theories in your head can reduce you from having natural reactions and acting them out.
I generally think that Friedemann Schulz von Thun model of communication is underappreciated in the Anglo-American discourse.
We covered the model in school in Germany and later when I went to Toastmasters two separate people hold speeches on it. At my university I had a course about personal development by a computer science professor that also covered the model of Schulz von Thun.
Apart from that there isn’t specific writing that I would recommend, but other might have recommendations.