I am a spiteful man. But I am aware of it, which is more than most can say. These days people walk through the streets with resentment in their hearts that they don’t even know about. They sneer and jeer but wouldn’t recognize their own faces. I, at least, will not shy away from my reflection. Thus, while I lack many virtues, in this way I am their superior.
incidentally, “everyone’s an asshole, I’m just the only one who admits it” is such a common refrain of extreme assholes
I see no need to scope it like you did. I’ve encountered it in a variety of contexts; it’s often people trying to command respect for being an asshole, and there have been serious incidents with people like that near and far. I could name a few, but I think encouraging people to be on alert for the behavior will make them more safe from it than listing instances and summoning sealions. It is quite common, even in places that think themselves immune from it.
Also, standard comment: that site’s recommender really messes with one’s epistemics ime, encourages hyperbole; I’d suggest getting off it as soon as you can pull enough of your network somewhere less blustery and fragmented. I like bsky for its much more human custom recommenders, or here, or discord, or email,
incidentally, “everyone’s an asshole, I’m just the only one who admits it” is such a common refrain of extreme assholes
it really really is.
I see no need to scope it like you did. I’ve encountered it in a variety of contexts; it’s often people trying to command respect for being an asshole, and there have been serious incidents with people like that near and far. I could name a few, but I think encouraging people to be on alert for the behavior will make them more safe from it than listing instances and summoning sealions. It is quite common, even in places that think themselves immune from it.
Also, standard comment: that site’s recommender really messes with one’s epistemics ime, encourages hyperbole; I’d suggest getting off it as soon as you can pull enough of your network somewhere less blustery and fragmented. I like bsky for its much more human custom recommenders, or here, or discord, or email,