See, if anything I have the exact opposite problem (which, ironically, I also attribute to arrogance). I almost never engage in arguments with people because I assume I’ll never change their mind. When I do get into a debate with someone, I’m extremely quick to give up and write them off as a lost cause. This probably isn’t a super healthy attitude to have (especially since many of these “lost causes” are my friends and family) but at least it keeps me out of unproductive arguments. I do have a few friends who are (in my experience) unusually good at listening to new arguments and changing their mind, so I usually wind up limiting my in-depth discussions to just them.
I’ve been struggling with this problem as well—for example, one of my family members believes very strongly in ‘fate’ in the traditional fatalist sense, while several others are practicing Buddhists. Most of the time we have a tacit agreement to avoid these topics—because my beliefs probably look very bizarre to them as well, and it is unlikely that any of us will change our mind.
See, if anything I have the exact opposite problem (which, ironically, I also attribute to arrogance). I almost never engage in arguments with people because I assume I’ll never change their mind. When I do get into a debate with someone, I’m extremely quick to give up and write them off as a lost cause. This probably isn’t a super healthy attitude to have (especially since many of these “lost causes” are my friends and family) but at least it keeps me out of unproductive arguments. I do have a few friends who are (in my experience) unusually good at listening to new arguments and changing their mind, so I usually wind up limiting my in-depth discussions to just them.
I’ve been struggling with this problem as well—for example, one of my family members believes very strongly in ‘fate’ in the traditional fatalist sense, while several others are practicing Buddhists. Most of the time we have a tacit agreement to avoid these topics—because my beliefs probably look very bizarre to them as well, and it is unlikely that any of us will change our mind.