Specifically, what I’ve learned is that in dealing with things that are, to a large extent, affected by my unconscious, it is helpful to treat my conscious and unconscious as separate agents, only one of which I am in control of. In doing this, I noticed that the proportion of my decision making affected by unconscious “blips” was higher than I thought, and furthermore that my unconscious reacts to stimuli in a way which is predicted by pua-Game to a far greater extent than I believed (despite me being a very atypical female).
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A great positive to this experience is that I can now, if I concentrate, notice which of my thoughts are conscious and which are unconscious “blips” which I rationalise.
I may have read too much Roissy but I’ve grown used to calling that part of me my hamster. (^_^)
I may have read too much Roissy but I’ve grown used to calling that part of me my hamster. (^_^)
Edit: Heh. It seems I’m not alone in using this terminology. Also overall my personal experience has been very similar, except I haven’t yet tried poly.