a newcomer to the site [...] engaging with the community
Recruiting newcomers and maximizing engagement have costs (in the form of making it harder to maintain the culture that made the community valuable in the first place) as well as benefits. See Ben Hoffman’s “On the Construction of Beacons” for a longer argument along these lines.
the tone just seemed consistently unreasonable for the situation.
I see how it could be read as unreasonably hostile, but I read it as unreasonably passionate about typography. The principle of charity recommends the latter reading.
If there are tradeoffs we can make along the lines of saying “if you’re resorting to X” instead of “if you’re stooping to X”, tradeoffs that don’t really lose much informational content but do significantly reduce potential for abrasion
I can think of two ways to reply to this.
The first reply. While individual writers would do well to carefully weigh the the shades of meaning between “stoop” and “resort” when composing their comments, I fear such fine distinctions aren’t well suited for intersubjectively applicable norms, which need to be robust over the vagaries of many authors’ goals, talents, and writing styles. A key feature that makes “No direct personal attacks” a great norm is that it’s a stable Schelling point: it’s not hard to get broad agreement, and therefore common knowledge, that “You’re stupid” is a personal attack, and “The idea that you expressed in this post is wrong and harmful” is not. Common knowledge makes norm-enforcement a lot easier by circumventing the possibility of plausible-deniability games: if I know that “You’re stupid” is a forbidden personal attack, and the mods know that I know, &c. then the elephant in my brain won’t be tempted to say it and then plead ignorance of the law, because no one’s going to buy that. When we get into the weeds of litigating which of various near-synonyms have which effects on reader microhedonics, this is no longer true.
The second reply. Don’t lose “much” informational content? Alex, you’re a goddamned alignment researcher. The human species is facing an impossible problem.1029 lives per second depend on you thinking more clearly than the heroes of scientific legend, seeing more deeply into the true secrets of mind and cognition than all who have come before you! Ten years from now, a fellow researcher finds a flaw in your proof that the AI your institute is deploying next week is low-impact. Do you want them to spend time fretting about exactly how to phrase their comment so as to not hurt your feelings? Or do you want them to tell you about the flaw as soon as possible and as clearly as possible so that you can not destroy the world?! This “backslide from [philosophy club] norms towards more diplomatic norms” will be the death of us all!
Don’t lose “much” informational content? Alex, you’re a goddamned alignment researcher… Do you want them to spend time fretting about exactly how to phrase their comment so as to not hurt your feelings?
This is a straw interpretation of what I’m trying to communicate. This argument isn’t addressing the actual norm I plan on enforcing, and seems to instead cast me as walling myself off from anything I might not like.
The norm I’m actually proposing is that if you see an easy way to make an abrasive thing less abrasive, you take it. If the thing still has to be abrasive, that’s fine. Remember, I said
needlessly abrasive
Am I to believe that if people can’t say the thing that first comes to mind in the heat of the moment, there isn’t any way to express the same information? What am I plausibly losing out on by not hearing “stooping to X” instead of “resorting to X”? That Said first thought of “stooping”? That he’s passionate about typography?
I don’t see many reasonable situations where this kind of statement
The thing you’re doing really doesn’t work, because [reason X]. You should do [alternative] because [reason Y].
doesn’t suffice (again, this isn’t a “template”; it’s just an example of a reasonable level of frankness).
I’ve been actively engaged with LW for a good while, and this issue hasn’t come up until now (which makes me think it’s uncommon, thankfully). Additionally, I’ve worked with people in the alignment research community. No one has seemed to have trouble communicating efficiently in a minimally abrasive fashion, and I don’t see why that will change.
I don’t currently plan on commenting further on this thread, although I thank both you and Said for your contributions and certainly hope you keep commenting on my posts!
The principle of charity recommends the latter reading.
If someone has a thin skin, that almost by definition means that their subconscious is running on something opposite to the principle of charity: the principle of erring-on-the-side-of-assuming-that-people-who-say-potentially-hostile-things-are-in-fact-hostile. You can’t just tell someone to apply the principle of charity in that case; that’s applying a counteractive strategy to a deeply felt emotional experience, and as such ineffective.
Recruiting newcomers and maximizing engagement have costs (in the form of making it harder to maintain the culture that made the community valuable in the first place) as well as benefits. See Ben Hoffman’s “On the Construction of Beacons” for a longer argument along these lines.
I see how it could be read as unreasonably hostile, but I read it as unreasonably passionate about typography. The principle of charity recommends the latter reading.
I can think of two ways to reply to this.
The first reply. While individual writers would do well to carefully weigh the the shades of meaning between “stoop” and “resort” when composing their comments, I fear such fine distinctions aren’t well suited for intersubjectively applicable norms, which need to be robust over the vagaries of many authors’ goals, talents, and writing styles. A key feature that makes “No direct personal attacks” a great norm is that it’s a stable Schelling point: it’s not hard to get broad agreement, and therefore common knowledge, that “You’re stupid” is a personal attack, and “The idea that you expressed in this post is wrong and harmful” is not. Common knowledge makes norm-enforcement a lot easier by circumventing the possibility of plausible-deniability games: if I know that “You’re stupid” is a forbidden personal attack, and the mods know that I know, &c. then the elephant in my brain won’t be tempted to say it and then plead ignorance of the law, because no one’s going to buy that. When we get into the weeds of litigating which of various near-synonyms have which effects on reader microhedonics, this is no longer true.
The second reply. Don’t lose “much” informational content? Alex, you’re a goddamned alignment researcher. The human species is facing an impossible problem.1029 lives per second depend on you thinking more clearly than the heroes of scientific legend, seeing more deeply into the true secrets of mind and cognition than all who have come before you! Ten years from now, a fellow researcher finds a flaw in your proof that the AI your institute is deploying next week is low-impact. Do you want them to spend time fretting about exactly how to phrase their comment so as to not hurt your feelings? Or do you want them to tell you about the flaw as soon as possible and as clearly as possible so that you can not destroy the world?! This “backslide from [philosophy club] norms towards more diplomatic norms” will be the death of us all!
This is a straw interpretation of what I’m trying to communicate. This argument isn’t addressing the actual norm I plan on enforcing, and seems to instead cast me as walling myself off from anything I might not like.
The norm I’m actually proposing is that if you see an easy way to make an abrasive thing less abrasive, you take it. If the thing still has to be abrasive, that’s fine. Remember, I said
Am I to believe that if people can’t say the thing that first comes to mind in the heat of the moment, there isn’t any way to express the same information? What am I plausibly losing out on by not hearing “stooping to X” instead of “resorting to X”? That Said first thought of “stooping”? That he’s passionate about typography?
I don’t see many reasonable situations where this kind of statement
doesn’t suffice (again, this isn’t a “template”; it’s just an example of a reasonable level of frankness).
I’ve been actively engaged with LW for a good while, and this issue hasn’t come up until now (which makes me think it’s uncommon, thankfully). Additionally, I’ve worked with people in the alignment research community. No one has seemed to have trouble communicating efficiently in a minimally abrasive fashion, and I don’t see why that will change.
I don’t currently plan on commenting further on this thread, although I thank both you and Said for your contributions and certainly hope you keep commenting on my posts!
If someone has a thin skin, that almost by definition means that their subconscious is running on something opposite to the principle of charity: the principle of erring-on-the-side-of-assuming-that-people-who-say-potentially-hostile-things-are-in-fact-hostile. You can’t just tell someone to apply the principle of charity in that case; that’s applying a counteractive strategy to a deeply felt emotional experience, and as such ineffective.