Oops I realized that the argument given in the last paragraph of my previous comment applies to people maximizing their personal welfare or being totally altruistic or totally altruistic wrt some large group or some combination of these options, but maybe not so much to people who are e.g. genuinely maximizing the sum of their family members’ personal welfares, but this last case might well be entailed by what you mean by “love”, so maybe I missed the point earlier. In the latter case, it seems likely that an IQ boost would keep many parts of love in tact initially, but I’d imagine that for a significant fraction of people, the unequal relationship would cause sadness over the next 5 years, which with significant probability causes falling out of love.
Of course, right after the IQ boost you might want to invent/implement mental tech which prevents this sadness or prevents the value drift caused by growing apart, but I’m not sure if there are currently feasible options which would be acceptable ways to fix either of these problems. Maybe one could figure out some contract to sign before the value drift, but this might go against some deeper values, and might not count as staying in love anyway.
Oops I realized that the argument given in the last paragraph of my previous comment applies to people maximizing their personal welfare or being totally altruistic or totally altruistic wrt some large group or some combination of these options, but maybe not so much to people who are e.g. genuinely maximizing the sum of their family members’ personal welfares, but this last case might well be entailed by what you mean by “love”, so maybe I missed the point earlier. In the latter case, it seems likely that an IQ boost would keep many parts of love in tact initially, but I’d imagine that for a significant fraction of people, the unequal relationship would cause sadness over the next 5 years, which with significant probability causes falling out of love. Of course, right after the IQ boost you might want to invent/implement mental tech which prevents this sadness or prevents the value drift caused by growing apart, but I’m not sure if there are currently feasible options which would be acceptable ways to fix either of these problems. Maybe one could figure out some contract to sign before the value drift, but this might go against some deeper values, and might not count as staying in love anyway.