You seem a very enthusiastic participant here, despite a lot of downmodding. I admire that—on here. In real life my fear would be that that translated into clinginess—wanting to come to all my parties, wanting to talk forever, and the like. (And perhaps that it reflects being socially unpopular, and that there might be a reason for that). So I’d lean slightly to avoid.
Haha, thanks for that analysis. How unexpected and insightful. Your premise is mostly correct, but your conclusion ain’t) I’m extremely clingy with a few people who I have crushes on and idealise at a given time (2 at the moment). It’s generally very short lived ~1 month and always women, haha. On the other hand, I’m quite popular with friends and acquiescence, get invited to lots of parties but rarely accept (goal oriented, ain’t got time for that!), I haven’t tried to fall in love with or done some cruel socially experiment on. On the other hand, my instinctive drive tor respond to this may be telling of some degree of insecurity about my social status...
Unsure the difference between “ignore” or “be indifferent”. I’ll treat both as “not avoid but not seek”.
My prior distribution for internet commenters for whom I don’t have other social connections is (rounded estimates) around 10% avoid, 90% indifferent and maybe 1% want to meet. LW moves much of the “avoid” into “indifferent”, and maybe quadruples “want to meet”. The few comments I’ve noticed from you specifically match my general LW impressions.
So, biggest weight on “indifferent to meeting you”. Slightly more interested than avoid-ey if I have to make an effort one way or the other.
Based on any experiences here, in real life, would you want to meet, avoid, ignore or be indifferent to me?
You seem a very enthusiastic participant here, despite a lot of downmodding. I admire that—on here. In real life my fear would be that that translated into clinginess—wanting to come to all my parties, wanting to talk forever, and the like. (And perhaps that it reflects being socially unpopular, and that there might be a reason for that). So I’d lean slightly to avoid.
Haha, thanks for that analysis. How unexpected and insightful. Your premise is mostly correct, but your conclusion ain’t) I’m extremely clingy with a few people who I have crushes on and idealise at a given time (2 at the moment). It’s generally very short lived ~1 month and always women, haha. On the other hand, I’m quite popular with friends and acquiescence, get invited to lots of parties but rarely accept (goal oriented, ain’t got time for that!), I haven’t tried to fall in love with or done some cruel socially experiment on. On the other hand, my instinctive drive tor respond to this may be telling of some degree of insecurity about my social status...
Unsure the difference between “ignore” or “be indifferent”. I’ll treat both as “not avoid but not seek”.
My prior distribution for internet commenters for whom I don’t have other social connections is (rounded estimates) around 10% avoid, 90% indifferent and maybe 1% want to meet. LW moves much of the “avoid” into “indifferent”, and maybe quadruples “want to meet”. The few comments I’ve noticed from you specifically match my general LW impressions.
So, biggest weight on “indifferent to meeting you”. Slightly more interested than avoid-ey if I have to make an effort one way or the other.
The information we can get about you through an internet forum may never be enough for us to give an answer that will be useful to you.