Over 1% risk for unsuspecting men is enough that I’ll paternity-test all of my children prior to claiming legal fatherhood.
As would I—there’s no reason not to. But I think you are putting too much emphasis on the importance of this. In a healthy relationship, a paternity test is like an air bag: it’s a safety measure to guard against something that has a very low chance of happening. Don’t let the fact that bad female actors exist deter you from having happy relationships with good female actors. There’s a woman on this very forum who precommitted to having her kids paternity tested.
Test pilots are not scientists...most of test pilot work is routine precision flying, and it’s the engineers, not the pilots, who typically design the test program.
He invented the rigid flight helmet.
The woman ideal is getting support/resources from the brave (good resources) while cheating with the chief (better genes).
Nope, the best case scenario is to marry the chief or otherwise secure the commitment of a high status man. Cheating has a huge downside: it’s possible to get caught and become ostracized. In the EEA, if a single mother was ostracized, her child’s chance of success was considerably diminished. This created evolutionary pressure for women to be loyal, and that’s why over 90% of births are non-cuckold births. That’s why loyalty to a respected brave is a strategy that has higher expected value than cheating on a respected brave with the chief.
It doesn’t take a genius to think of stuff like this, but it does not trigger male outrage and thus does not gather tons of pageviews and get repeated ad nauseum.
BTW I recommend http://reddit.com/r/purplepilldebate for getting some perspective on Red Pill ideas. But just in general keep in mind that they’re presenting the ideas in the way that gets you maximally riled up due to memetic selection effects (see outrage link).
Don’t let the fact that bad female actors exist deter you from having happy relationships with good female actors.
“Good” = doing what benefits others. “Bad” = doing what benefits me.
It’s safest to assume that any woman will dump/manipulate/cheat me the second it’s in her best interest to do so.
It’s safest to assume all guns are loaded.
Nope, the best case scenario is to marry the chief or otherwise secure the commitment of a high status man.
Nope, for any given high status man the woman is able to marry, there exists an even higher status man the woman would be able to fuck, but not marry, given a large population, and assuming infidelity is legal. Thus, in the real world, a woman marrying the most wealthy man who wants to marry her and then cheating with the most attractive man who wants to fuck her gives her the best combination she can achieve. A man who was both as rich as her husband and as hot as her affair partner would never marry her.
It doesn’t take a genius to think of stuff like this
Any time this phrase occurs: think about it harder, and insist domain experts check it.
Anyway, it sounds like you’ve gone through a lot. I’m sorry to hear of your suffering. I hope that someday you will have joyful experiences that help you put your current suffering in perspective.
“What good is life experience to someone who plays Quidditch?” said Professor Quirrell, and shrugged. “I think you will change your mind in time, after every trust you place has failed you, and you have become cynical.”
“You have to get seriously burnt by friends/employers/family members (ideally all three) over women/money/jobs (again ideally all three) before you realise that you create more hassle for yourself and crush opportunities if people perceive you to be smart/rich/well connected. Most people simply are not worth knowing and are too insecure to be good friends with.”
I am pretty cynical already and I don’t see the point of this quote. I am not saying you should be a loyal friend to the whole world.
You, I presume, have been recently burned and so your sense of risk-reward is skewed at the moment. Yes, you can arrange your life to be almost entirely safe from emotional harm, but I suspect it will be a barren and highly unsatisfying life.
As would I—there’s no reason not to. But I think you are putting too much emphasis on the importance of this. In a healthy relationship, a paternity test is like an air bag: it’s a safety measure to guard against something that has a very low chance of happening. Don’t let the fact that bad female actors exist deter you from having happy relationships with good female actors. There’s a woman on this very forum who precommitted to having her kids paternity tested.
He invented the rigid flight helmet.
Nope, the best case scenario is to marry the chief or otherwise secure the commitment of a high status man. Cheating has a huge downside: it’s possible to get caught and become ostracized. In the EEA, if a single mother was ostracized, her child’s chance of success was considerably diminished. This created evolutionary pressure for women to be loyal, and that’s why over 90% of births are non-cuckold births. That’s why loyalty to a respected brave is a strategy that has higher expected value than cheating on a respected brave with the chief.
It doesn’t take a genius to think of stuff like this, but it does not trigger male outrage and thus does not gather tons of pageviews and get repeated ad nauseum.
BTW I recommend http://reddit.com/r/purplepilldebate for getting some perspective on Red Pill ideas. But just in general keep in mind that they’re presenting the ideas in the way that gets you maximally riled up due to memetic selection effects (see outrage link).
“Good” = doing what benefits others. “Bad” = doing what benefits me.
It’s safest to assume that any woman will dump/manipulate/cheat me the second it’s in her best interest to do so.
It’s safest to assume all guns are loaded.
Nope, for any given high status man the woman is able to marry, there exists an even higher status man the woman would be able to fuck, but not marry, given a large population, and assuming infidelity is legal. Thus, in the real world, a woman marrying the most wealthy man who wants to marry her and then cheating with the most attractive man who wants to fuck her gives her the best combination she can achieve. A man who was both as rich as her husband and as hot as her affair partner would never marry her.
Any time this phrase occurs: think about it harder, and insist domain experts check it.
http://lesswrong.com/lw/l0/adaptationexecuters_not_fitnessmaximizers/
Anyway, it sounds like you’ve gone through a lot. I’m sorry to hear of your suffering. I hope that someday you will have joyful experiences that help you put your current suffering in perspective.
Thank you for the kind words.
There are guys who primarily car about having sex with hot woman and there are woman who primarily care about having sex with hot man.
In both cases that’s not the whole population.
Furthermore for many woman having sex with a man with whom they are in a love relationship is better than having sex with man with whom they aren’t.
Ask and ye shall receive.
You’re setting yourself up for an unhappy life.
“What good is life experience to someone who plays Quidditch?” said Professor Quirrell, and shrugged. “I think you will change your mind in time, after every trust you place has failed you, and you have become cynical.”
“You have to get seriously burnt by friends/employers/family members (ideally all three) over women/money/jobs (again ideally all three) before you realise that you create more hassle for yourself and crush opportunities if people perceive you to be smart/rich/well connected. Most people simply are not worth knowing and are too insecure to be good friends with.”
I am pretty cynical already and I don’t see the point of this quote. I am not saying you should be a loyal friend to the whole world.
You, I presume, have been recently burned and so your sense of risk-reward is skewed at the moment. Yes, you can arrange your life to be almost entirely safe from emotional harm, but I suspect it will be a barren and highly unsatisfying life.