For me, you can take that I’m open to being convinced as the null hypothesis. Most civilized people are.
If one considers sufficiently impersonal topics like bus schedules? Yes, for the most part.
Microcultures with strong elements of authority will have a much harder time with this assumption, even in horizontal interactions. I would not call all of these uncivilized, though I’m not a fan of them.
It’s not complicated to frame a conversation as a search for truth as opposed to a vs. argument. Many people go overboard in this. I agree that this is obnoxious. I maintain that a flat contradiction is in many cases insufficient, especially in those cases where the matter at hand is contentious or personal, or there is any degree of hostility or unease between the conversants.
Option A wasn’t a flat contradiction only. In fact, the original person wrote it up in a more pussy footing way than I would.
Flat contradiction would be “you’re wrong”. I agree that’s not an invitation to further discussion.
My usual comment would be of the form:
“That’s wrong. Blah di blah isn’t blah di blee, it’s hooty hooty.”
It’s “you’re wrong” plus some evidence on which I based my disagreement. Would that be unclear to you personally, that you’re welcome to disagree and cite evidence for your disagreement in turn?
Maybe we could try an example so that we’re talking about something concrete. I just don’t think it’s a mystery. I think that a great many people get very touchy when it comes to being disagreed with. I’m of another species that likes to be disagreed with, because then we have a contradiction to resolve, and that’s fun and potentially productive.
I’m sorry: for reasons I do not understand, I misunderstood what you were referring to with ‘option A’. Your response made perfect sense and mine did not.
That didn’t seem like an accurate characterization of option A to me, so I gave a concrete example:
Flat contradiction would be “you’re wrong”.
and a concrete example of the option A alternative:
“That’s wrong. Blah di blah isn’t blah di blee, it’s hooty hooty.”
It would have been better to be more concrete.
Was that the issue?
I feel that in these more personal discussions abstract terms gets used, and each side is picturing a very different part of the spectrum for their concretes.
I think it was that I kind of short-circuited ‘option 1’ into meaning ‘the first option mentioned’, and from there ‘what the guy said in the first place’. This is not what you were referring to by ‘option 1’, and even though it’s an understandable error, I still should have been able to pick up on it from the context of the parent and grandparent comment to yours.
If one considers sufficiently impersonal topics like bus schedules? Yes, for the most part.
Microcultures with strong elements of authority will have a much harder time with this assumption, even in horizontal interactions. I would not call all of these uncivilized, though I’m not a fan of them.
It’s not complicated to frame a conversation as a search for truth as opposed to a vs. argument. Many people go overboard in this. I agree that this is obnoxious. I maintain that a flat contradiction is in many cases insufficient, especially in those cases where the matter at hand is contentious or personal, or there is any degree of hostility or unease between the conversants.
Option A wasn’t a flat contradiction only. In fact, the original person wrote it up in a more pussy footing way than I would.
Flat contradiction would be “you’re wrong”. I agree that’s not an invitation to further discussion.
My usual comment would be of the form: “That’s wrong. Blah di blah isn’t blah di blee, it’s hooty hooty.”
It’s “you’re wrong” plus some evidence on which I based my disagreement. Would that be unclear to you personally, that you’re welcome to disagree and cite evidence for your disagreement in turn?
Maybe we could try an example so that we’re talking about something concrete. I just don’t think it’s a mystery. I think that a great many people get very touchy when it comes to being disagreed with. I’m of another species that likes to be disagreed with, because then we have a contradiction to resolve, and that’s fun and potentially productive.
I’m sorry: for reasons I do not understand, I misunderstood what you were referring to with ‘option A’. Your response made perfect sense and mine did not.
You thought I meant “flat contradiction”?
That didn’t seem like an accurate characterization of option A to me, so I gave a concrete example:
and a concrete example of the option A alternative:
It would have been better to be more concrete.
Was that the issue?
I feel that in these more personal discussions abstract terms gets used, and each side is picturing a very different part of the spectrum for their concretes.
I think it was that I kind of short-circuited ‘option 1’ into meaning ‘the first option mentioned’, and from there ‘what the guy said in the first place’. This is not what you were referring to by ‘option 1’, and even though it’s an understandable error, I still should have been able to pick up on it from the context of the parent and grandparent comment to yours.