I annoy my partner with this sort of thing regularly. Perhaps I should stop. On the other hand, there have been several times in my life when other people (therapists, relatives, friends) more accurately assessed my behavior than I did at the time. Just because this behavior is annoying doesn’t mean that the person doing it is incorrect. I don’t buy the “How could you possibly know me better than I know myself” argument.
My tentative take is that it’s less annoying if you have specific evidence rather than a general principle that people can’t really be like that. Or possibly if you say something like, “I’m surprised—what do you have in mind?”.
I annoy my partner with this sort of thing regularly. Perhaps I should stop. On the other hand, there have been several times in my life when other people (therapists, relatives, friends) more accurately assessed my behavior than I did at the time. Just because this behavior is annoying doesn’t mean that the person doing it is incorrect. I don’t buy the “How could you possibly know me better than I know myself” argument.
Agreed. But just because it might be correct doesn’t mean it isn’t annoying (which is the point I’m trying to make).
My tentative take is that it’s less annoying if you have specific evidence rather than a general principle that people can’t really be like that. Or possibly if you say something like, “I’m surprised—what do you have in mind?”.