Ok, looking at the articles much of it talks about how being a dick is not related to being right or being polite and how bad it is to be a dick. As far as talking about what being a dick actually is here is all the article says:
Standard dick-moves, for example, include such things as willfully (but politely) drawing attention to genuine (but inconsequential) errors in spelling or grammar of an interlocutor’s comments, disregarding the Chomskian distinction between language competence and language performance.
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Are you here to contribute and make the project good? Or is your goal really to find fault, get your views across [emphasis mine], or be the one in control? Perhaps secretly inside you even enjoy the thrill of a little confrontation.
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Telling someone “Don’t be a dick” is generally a dick-move — especially if true. It upsets the other person and reduces the chance that they’ll listen to what you say.
Ok, ignoring the line about how attempting to get your views across constitutes being a dick, the idea appears to be a combination of not acting/arguing in good faith and using techniques that are low on Paul Graham’s hierarchy of disagreement.
Is this about right?
Also, I suspect the whole “don’t be a dick” thing seems like an attempt to create a virtue ethics from scratch by people who never learned traditional virtue ethics.
As far as talking about what being a dick actually is here is all the article says:
Well, no, it also says:
Focus on behaviour, not on individuals. Say what you want and why you want it. Say why you think the other person’s behaviour is counter-productive. Assume good faith to the maximum extent possible. If you don’t understand why someone is doing something, ask. Don’t rush to complain until you are sure that good faith negotiations can’t work. Understand before insisting on being understood.
Remember that your perception can be wrong. If the other person is writing in an unfamiliar language, or has a different cultural background, you may misunderstand their intentions.
Above all, be genuine. Don’t ask questions when you know the answer. Don’t say you want one thing if you want another. Don’t try to persuade people of things that aren’t true. Do not respond to dickery in kind.
We can translate this from the negative to the positive:
To be a dick, focus on individuals, not behavior. Hide your real intentions. Express general disapproval of others without reference to the goals of the project. Assume that others are there to mess things up or get in your way. If you don’t understand why someone is doing something, guess. Don’t negotiate — complain! Insist that others understand you before you deign to attempt to understand them.
You are right. If the other person is being weird, they are wrong, they are misunderstanding you, and they must stop doing that before you can cooperate with them.
Above all, be clever. Snark off with rhetorical questions to prove your wit. Get your point across by trolling and tricking others, getting them to retreat in awe of your cleverness. Don’t let anyone out-dick you!
the idea appears to be a combination of not acting/arguing in good faith and using techniques that are low on Paul Graham’s hierarchy of disagreement.
Is this about right?
Ah, OK. Does Don’t be a dick get the idea across a bit?
Ok, looking at the articles much of it talks about how being a dick is not related to being right or being polite and how bad it is to be a dick. As far as talking about what being a dick actually is here is all the article says:
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Ok, ignoring the line about how attempting to get your views across constitutes being a dick, the idea appears to be a combination of not acting/arguing in good faith and using techniques that are low on Paul Graham’s hierarchy of disagreement.
Is this about right?
Also, I suspect the whole “don’t be a dick” thing seems like an attempt to create a virtue ethics from scratch by people who never learned traditional virtue ethics.
Well, no, it also says:
We can translate this from the negative to the positive:
That’s probably close enough to be workable.