I am quite familiar with the physicist example, but the situation might be different here. People are notoriously bad at introspection, which lowers the difference between an amateur and an expert. Additionally, daenerys and the guy might be interpreting the question differently: she describes how she feels, he describes how she appears.
People do tend to be pretty bad at introspection, but if you feel that you’re in a much better position to make a judgment than someone else, and they insist that you’re wrong anyway, it’s liable to feel pretty insulting.
A difference in interpretation seems like it should have been pretty easy to recognize, if the conversation carried on long (ordinary people can hammer out a confusion for ages, but I’d expect a Less Wrong member to be better at noticing “hey, it seems like we’re talking about completely different things here.”)
I am quite familiar with the physicist example, but the situation might be different here. People are notoriously bad at introspection, which lowers the difference between an amateur and an expert. Additionally, daenerys and the guy might be interpreting the question differently: she describes how she feels, he describes how she appears.
People do tend to be pretty bad at introspection, but if you feel that you’re in a much better position to make a judgment than someone else, and they insist that you’re wrong anyway, it’s liable to feel pretty insulting.
A difference in interpretation seems like it should have been pretty easy to recognize, if the conversation carried on long (ordinary people can hammer out a confusion for ages, but I’d expect a Less Wrong member to be better at noticing “hey, it seems like we’re talking about completely different things here.”)