My stance towards almost everyone is “if you want to have a dialogue with me and have a topic in mind, great, I’m probably interested; but I have nothing specific in mind that I want to dialogue with you about”. Which makes me not want to check the box, but some people have apparently checked it for me. I’d appreciate having two levels of interest, along the lines of “not interested/interested/enthusiastic” such that a match needs either interested/enthusiastic or enthusiastic/enthusiastic.
My stance towards almost everyone is “if you want to have a dialogue with me and have a topic in mind, great, I’m probably interested; but I have nothing specific in mind that I want to dialogue with you about”. Which makes me not want to check the box, but some people have apparently checked it for me. I’d appreciate having two levels of interest, along the lines of “not interested/interested/enthusiastic” such that a match needs either interested/enthusiastic or enthusiastic/enthusiastic.
I am in literally the exact same situation, and think your proposed remedy makes sense.