can you give an example of a better metric?
A better metric of what than what?
James was being extremely charitable.
Deliberately taking someone to mean something you are pretty sure they didn’t mean—which I’m not sure whether James in particular was doing, but others in this discussion certainly have been—is not “extremely charitable”, it is rude.
A better metric of what than what?
Deliberately taking someone to mean something you are pretty sure they didn’t mean—which I’m not sure whether James in particular was doing, but others in this discussion certainly have been—is not “extremely charitable”, it is rude.