Ugh Field / Wishful Thinking—when I came up with 10-12 truly clever explanations why I am not moderately depressed and not abusing alcohol: that probably means I am. I don’t have 10-12 clever explanations why don’t watch hockey. I just don’t. Things you really aren’t / don’t tend to be simple.
Missing the level—trying a million things that would repair the consequences of the above rather than the root causes. For example, overcompensating for the feelings of inferiority instead of having that removed. Example: chasing girls who were pretty but empty, but still feeling like a womanizer made me feel less inferior. It is missing the level, theoretically, any treatment that kills minor depression should kill the inferiority feeling that it causes.
Not knowing what I want. I like and dislike to socialize at the same time. I like the idea of socializing. I just don’t like people, usually. I would like being the kind of person who likes it.
Not knowing what I want. I like and dislike to socialize at the same time. I like the idea of socializing. I just don’t like people, usually. I would like being the kind of person who likes it.
I think that “like socializing” might be a dangling node. For me...
I often get some sort of “superficial enjoyment” from socializing.
Sometimes I don’t get that enjoyment and I’m bored.
I’m usually frustrated with people for being stupid when I’m socializing.
Sometimes I’m frustrated that I can’t talk about more serious and interesting things.
Sometimes I feel “empty” because I can’t have “real” conversations with people in person.
So these are all just descriptions of reality. Whether or not that makes the label “someone who likes socializing” apply to me, idk. But once you know the facts, asking that question is just a matter of semantics.
Does frequency of socialization change your feelings about it? I know, personally, that my ideal amount of socialization is about once a week with people I am close to, and once a month with strangers. There are others who need it every day, but still like a weekend away from people every now and then.
In addition, forced socialization (if your work or school requires a lot of communication, poor or otherwise) can be especially draining.
The less painful ones:
Ugh Field / Wishful Thinking—when I came up with 10-12 truly clever explanations why I am not moderately depressed and not abusing alcohol: that probably means I am. I don’t have 10-12 clever explanations why don’t watch hockey. I just don’t. Things you really aren’t / don’t tend to be simple.
Missing the level—trying a million things that would repair the consequences of the above rather than the root causes. For example, overcompensating for the feelings of inferiority instead of having that removed. Example: chasing girls who were pretty but empty, but still feeling like a womanizer made me feel less inferior. It is missing the level, theoretically, any treatment that kills minor depression should kill the inferiority feeling that it causes.
Not knowing what I want. I like and dislike to socialize at the same time. I like the idea of socializing. I just don’t like people, usually. I would like being the kind of person who likes it.
I sense that You don’t get to know what you’re fighting for might be a relevant read.
I think that “like socializing” might be a dangling node. For me...
I often get some sort of “superficial enjoyment” from socializing.
Sometimes I don’t get that enjoyment and I’m bored.
I’m usually frustrated with people for being stupid when I’m socializing.
Sometimes I’m frustrated that I can’t talk about more serious and interesting things.
Sometimes I feel “empty” because I can’t have “real” conversations with people in person.
So these are all just descriptions of reality. Whether or not that makes the label “someone who likes socializing” apply to me, idk. But once you know the facts, asking that question is just a matter of semantics.
Does frequency of socialization change your feelings about it? I know, personally, that my ideal amount of socialization is about once a week with people I am close to, and once a month with strangers. There are others who need it every day, but still like a weekend away from people every now and then.
In addition, forced socialization (if your work or school requires a lot of communication, poor or otherwise) can be especially draining.