I consistently misinterpret what people are saying when in the heat of the moment, and get upset about it. For instance, I was recently playing Warframe with a couple friends, and one playfully grumbled at me for getting killed; and I got really upset in response, thinking they were being deliberately cruel.
This is quite an annoying habit for me given the people I hang around (they lack tact), and I’m doing my best to solve it. I suspect I’m falling prey to the Mind Projection fallacy and thinking them heated when I am, which only escalates it.
Your explanation seems like it might be true. I know usually encounter that problem, on the other side. Incorporating failure as an opportunity to improve is how I’ve dealt with it in the past, but that may be akin to someone telling a depressed person “just be happy.”
A friend who’s willing to explain how you could improve, and be extremely polite about it might help.
I don’t really have any problem with accepting criticism if it’s couched as such. Or, for that matter, failing (I play Path of Exile hardcore, after all!). It’s simply dealing with comments that are intended to be sarcastic, poking-fun-at, that I take to be serious when in the moment.
While I’m good at picking up social cues when given time to analyze them, while I’m playing a game it’s difficult for me to recognize.
I consistently misinterpret what people are saying when in the heat of the moment, and get upset about it. For instance, I was recently playing Warframe with a couple friends, and one playfully grumbled at me for getting killed; and I got really upset in response, thinking they were being deliberately cruel.
This is quite an annoying habit for me given the people I hang around (they lack tact), and I’m doing my best to solve it. I suspect I’m falling prey to the Mind Projection fallacy and thinking them heated when I am, which only escalates it.
Dying in Warframe? What a casual!
Your explanation seems like it might be true. I know usually encounter that problem, on the other side. Incorporating failure as an opportunity to improve is how I’ve dealt with it in the past, but that may be akin to someone telling a depressed person “just be happy.”
A friend who’s willing to explain how you could improve, and be extremely polite about it might help.
I don’t really have any problem with accepting criticism if it’s couched as such. Or, for that matter, failing (I play Path of Exile hardcore, after all!). It’s simply dealing with comments that are intended to be sarcastic, poking-fun-at, that I take to be serious when in the moment.
While I’m good at picking up social cues when given time to analyze them, while I’m playing a game it’s difficult for me to recognize.