I’ll definitely see about getting myself down to Berkeley after the holidays are through.
After giving it a bit of thought, I’m reasonably sure I have plenty of reasons to accept the offer and no reasons not to, even if the idea does stir up a bit of my old social timidity.
Oh, and while I’m not exactly poly myself, I’m definitely poly-friendly.
Well, I don’t actually have much experience in this area (obviously), so this is based mostly on introspection and guesswork, but I have observed in myself a distinct reluctance to split my attention among things which I feel individually merit more than cursory attention.
I don’t know what this actually amounts to in practice. I suspect this means that if I had multiple girlfriends, as soon as one was clearly my primary, I would find myself inclined to neglect my relationships with the others. (Which, combined with a touch of Projection, is why I once referred to myself as “naturally monogamous”—I now think that’s an oversimplification and not necessarily a good thing.). However, as I’ve never even had one girlfriend at a time, this is all speculation, and I’m most likely near the limits of what I can learn through introspection.
So I’m… potentially poly, verification pending? :P
Have you ever really liked a girl who was going out with a friend of yours? How jealous did you feel? That could help shed light on how poly you could be.
I’ve never been in that exact situation, but I have been in situations where I think I would have felt jealousy if I was likely to in general, and didn’t. Jealousy has never really even been an issue for me, even before I knew poly was a thing.
I would be extremely surprised if I ended up having issues with jealousy.
That’s… quite generous of you.
I think I may want to take you up on that at some point, if the offer’s serious.
Offer’s serious ^^
Well, cool.
I’ll definitely see about getting myself down to Berkeley after the holidays are through.
After giving it a bit of thought, I’m reasonably sure I have plenty of reasons to accept the offer and no reasons not to, even if the idea does stir up a bit of my old social timidity.
Oh, and while I’m not exactly poly myself, I’m definitely poly-friendly.
Are you inexactly poly?
Heh.
Well, I don’t actually have much experience in this area (obviously), so this is based mostly on introspection and guesswork, but I have observed in myself a distinct reluctance to split my attention among things which I feel individually merit more than cursory attention.
I don’t know what this actually amounts to in practice. I suspect this means that if I had multiple girlfriends, as soon as one was clearly my primary, I would find myself inclined to neglect my relationships with the others. (Which, combined with a touch of Projection, is why I once referred to myself as “naturally monogamous”—I now think that’s an oversimplification and not necessarily a good thing.). However, as I’ve never even had one girlfriend at a time, this is all speculation, and I’m most likely near the limits of what I can learn through introspection.
So I’m… potentially poly, verification pending? :P
That was very nicely said.
Have you ever really liked a girl who was going out with a friend of yours? How jealous did you feel? That could help shed light on how poly you could be.
Oh, that’s not a concern at all.
I’ve never been in that exact situation, but I have been in situations where I think I would have felt jealousy if I was likely to in general, and didn’t. Jealousy has never really even been an issue for me, even before I knew poly was a thing.
I would be extremely surprised if I ended up having issues with jealousy.
That’s certainly a good sign.