You should probably start with caring less about what people say at parties and gatherings. If someone’s actually seeking information or discussion about what to prioritize or why things aren’t that simple, that can be a great conversation. If they’re actually dedicated and knowledgeable about a topic, you can learn from and admire them, and have great interactions even if you disagree.
The arguments you’re describing are just people signaling, presumably for status or self-image (status inside their head) reasons. Rarely are these conversations worth your time.
You should probably start with caring less about what people say at parties and gatherings. If someone’s actually seeking information or discussion about what to prioritize or why things aren’t that simple, that can be a great conversation. If they’re actually dedicated and knowledgeable about a topic, you can learn from and admire them, and have great interactions even if you disagree.
The arguments you’re describing are just people signaling, presumably for status or self-image (status inside their head) reasons. Rarely are these conversations worth your time.