I would never consciously train a fake smile for the purpose of it being visible to other people because I have no problem to trigger the emotional shift that leads to a smile if I want to which actually leads to all those muscles around the eyes actually doing what they are supposed to do with a real smile.
If you want to learn better posture, then an actor is not a person who has the skill set that’s focused on teaching you posture. They might have had an Alexander technique course in their training and try to teach you posture based on it, but you likely get much better returns if you actually go to an Alexander technique trainer.
A more generalized way would also be to take martial arts classes. They teach you how to use your body in a way where it’s more expressive.
3. Two alternative explanations for your comment. One is that the paid dating coaches want to protect their market.
Most of my perspective of those people comes from an enviroment where I spent 10 days at a retreat along with a bunch of guys who are into personal development.
Some of them do earn their money with the dating market and that involves writing “How to have good eye contact with girls” articles because those are high traffic keywords on Google even when it’s not what they consider to be most helpful.
Check out Luke Progs lecture about using body language to pick up women. Honestly looks entirely fakable, so easily fakable that you shouldn’t call it fake
It’s worth noting that while the title is all about body language it involves him saying that coming with existing friends to the pub and having fun with them is part of the behavior he recommends to have good bodylanguage. “Have a good time with everybody” Having a good time with everybody is being uninhibited. A lot of attempts to consciously slow down your body language will create inhibition.
This is also a typical structure of this kind of dating advice. It hooks people who are into optimizing bodylanguage with the title and then a short bit of information and then spends the bulk of the time recommending what’s actually believed to be useful, in this case having established relationships where you have fun with other people instead of coming in alone.
You are implying I won’t do the other practices. I agree that Luke Progs other points are higher cost-benefit and should be done first. But just because other things pass cost-benefit does not mean the body language changes also do not.
Anyway, we’ve presented our pro and con arguments. I’m gonna go test it. Will report back.
I would never consciously train a fake smile for the purpose of it being visible to other people because I have no problem to trigger the emotional shift that leads to a smile if I want to which actually leads to all those muscles around the eyes actually doing what they are supposed to do with a real smile.
If you want to learn better posture, then an actor is not a person who has the skill set that’s focused on teaching you posture. They might have had an Alexander technique course in their training and try to teach you posture based on it, but you likely get much better returns if you actually go to an Alexander technique trainer.
A more generalized way would also be to take martial arts classes. They teach you how to use your body in a way where it’s more expressive.
Most of my perspective of those people comes from an enviroment where I spent 10 days at a retreat along with a bunch of guys who are into personal development.
Some of them do earn their money with the dating market and that involves writing “How to have good eye contact with girls” articles because those are high traffic keywords on Google even when it’s not what they consider to be most helpful.
It’s worth noting that while the title is all about body language it involves him saying that coming with existing friends to the pub and having fun with them is part of the behavior he recommends to have good bodylanguage. “Have a good time with everybody” Having a good time with everybody is being uninhibited. A lot of attempts to consciously slow down your body language will create inhibition.
This is also a typical structure of this kind of dating advice. It hooks people who are into optimizing bodylanguage with the title and then a short bit of information and then spends the bulk of the time recommending what’s actually believed to be useful, in this case having established relationships where you have fun with other people instead of coming in alone.
You are implying I won’t do the other practices. I agree that Luke Progs other points are higher cost-benefit and should be done first. But just because other things pass cost-benefit does not mean the body language changes also do not.
Anyway, we’ve presented our pro and con arguments. I’m gonna go test it. Will report back.