Non-coercive parenting is fine – within reasonable limits.
If your toddler ‘wants’ to walk into traffic (i.e. does do so) – too bad; that’s outside of the reasonable scope of their decision-making! It is entirely reasonable to physically coerce (e.g. pick them up) such a child in those circumstances.
Everything short of an imminent and potentially dire emergency is more-or-less plausibly up for grabs. I think it’d be generally better for parents to build a ‘positive’ scope of decision-making instead of trying to patch an initial mostly ‘open-ended’ scope.
I personally think that homeschooling is perfectly fine to consider but others should probably think about it a good bit, or even try it out for a limited period, before (implicitly) allowing that as an option if one of their children doesn’t want to go to school.
Similarly, there’s lots of things that kids/children do or would/could do, mostly out of ignorance, that their parents probably aren’t really committed to living with, e.g. making (spectacular) messes, drawing on walls/furniture, destroying things, etc..
I think it’s much better to ‘flout convention’ explicitly, while also teaching kids about the standard convention(s) too. I was lucky enough to be (explicitly) allowed to draw on the walls of my bedroom at one point. That seems totally fine to allow – unless a parent really isn’t willing to live with the consequences.
Non-coercive parenting is fine – within reasonable limits.
If your toddler ‘wants’ to walk into traffic (i.e. does do so) – too bad; that’s outside of the reasonable scope of their decision-making! It is entirely reasonable to physically coerce (e.g. pick them up) such a child in those circumstances.
Everything short of an imminent and potentially dire emergency is more-or-less plausibly up for grabs. I think it’d be generally better for parents to build a ‘positive’ scope of decision-making instead of trying to patch an initial mostly ‘open-ended’ scope.
I personally think that homeschooling is perfectly fine to consider but others should probably think about it a good bit, or even try it out for a limited period, before (implicitly) allowing that as an option if one of their children doesn’t want to go to school.
Similarly, there’s lots of things that kids/children do or would/could do, mostly out of ignorance, that their parents probably aren’t really committed to living with, e.g. making (spectacular) messes, drawing on walls/furniture, destroying things, etc..
I think it’s much better to ‘flout convention’ explicitly, while also teaching kids about the standard convention(s) too. I was lucky enough to be (explicitly) allowed to draw on the walls of my bedroom at one point. That seems totally fine to allow – unless a parent really isn’t willing to live with the consequences.