...though having said that, I do see how a casual reading might give that idea. The problem is clearly the clause “take matters into her own hands if you went a little too far”. I think that line should be rewritten to rule out the wrong interpretation.
That is, assuming it’s not me who has the wrong interpretation, but I’m fairly confident I got it right. As I understood it, it should read like this:
I can’t imagine how boring your sex lives must have been up until then—flirting with a woman, teasing her, leading her on, knowing the whole time that you were perfectly safe [from non-consensual sex] because she couldn’t take matters into her own hands [by forcing you to have sex] if you went a little too far [with your flirting]”
“You need a history refresher, my Lord Administrator [because that’s nothing like what non-consensual was, back in those days].
I think this is about the best interprentation of it. Most comments here are too focused on the statistically common Male-on-Female rape. I think in between lies a significant reduction in the number of men with libido-control problems and so (giving lots of inteprentative room and not to offend feminists) women might actually be revealed as having an on-average more ravenous sexual apetite?
From what little I know of human neurology, male sex-stuffs are the basic things in the ancient parts of the brain that most any higher mammal share, while female sex-stuffs are much later and closer to our large frontal lobes. (This might be entirely incorrect, please correct me if I am.)
From what little I know of human neurology, male sex-stuffs are the basic things in the ancient parts of the brain that most any higher mammal share, while female sex-stuffs are much later and closer to our large frontal lobes. (This might be entirely incorrect, please correct me if I am.)
Based on my (also limited) understanding, I think it’s partly correct. The brain circuits that create arousal in females are just about as ancient as in males, I think, but in males those circuits can be activated by pretty basic stimuli (i.e. looking at a human with boobs), whereas females may require a lot more complex, nuanced stuff, like emotional closeness–just looking at a naked, muscular guy won’t suffice.
...though having said that, I do see how a casual reading might give that idea. The problem is clearly the clause “take matters into her own hands if you went a little too far”. I think that line should be rewritten to rule out the wrong interpretation.
That is, assuming it’s not me who has the wrong interpretation, but I’m fairly confident I got it right. As I understood it, it should read like this:
I can’t imagine how boring your sex lives must have been up until then—flirting with a woman, teasing her, leading her on, knowing the whole time that you were perfectly safe [from non-consensual sex] because she couldn’t take matters into her own hands [by forcing you to have sex] if you went a little too far [with your flirting]”
“You need a history refresher, my Lord Administrator [because that’s nothing like what non-consensual was, back in those days].
...is that the reading that was intended?
I think this is about the best interprentation of it. Most comments here are too focused on the statistically common Male-on-Female rape. I think in between lies a significant reduction in the number of men with libido-control problems and so (giving lots of inteprentative room and not to offend feminists) women might actually be revealed as having an on-average more ravenous sexual apetite?
From what little I know of human neurology, male sex-stuffs are the basic things in the ancient parts of the brain that most any higher mammal share, while female sex-stuffs are much later and closer to our large frontal lobes. (This might be entirely incorrect, please correct me if I am.)
Based on my (also limited) understanding, I think it’s partly correct. The brain circuits that create arousal in females are just about as ancient as in males, I think, but in males those circuits can be activated by pretty basic stimuli (i.e. looking at a human with boobs), whereas females may require a lot more complex, nuanced stuff, like emotional closeness–just looking at a naked, muscular guy won’t suffice.