Every day I try to imagine them somehow watching me and I ask whether they would think I forgot them.
As someone who also had ADHD and a terrible upbringing and can relate to a bunch of the anecdotes in the post...I think this is unhealthy and something to work on. Believing that being miserable is virtuous is an aspect of trauma. Believing your trauma can never be fixed is an aspect of learned helplessness that is itself a trauma.
Correct. Though the latter depends on what someone means by “never be fixed”; trauma is always going to leave a mark but it does not have to remain debilitating nor defining.
As someone who also had ADHD and a terrible upbringing and can relate to a bunch of the anecdotes in the post...I think this is unhealthy and something to work on. Believing that being miserable is virtuous is an aspect of trauma. Believing your trauma can never be fixed is an aspect of learned helplessness that is itself a trauma.
Correct. Though the latter depends on what someone means by “never be fixed”; trauma is always going to leave a mark but it does not have to remain debilitating nor defining.