I was also remembering the Ialdaboth situation from a while ago. There were some standard cancel culture sexual harassment accusations made against him. The other posts I was trying to refer to were the leverage and MIRI tirades as you said (I think there were a few separate posts about Leverage?). I didn’t do more than skim any of them so I don’t know if any of them were actually interesting or had any sensible accusations of abuse. I did get the same impression that you did, the posts were terribly written and full of the kinds of mystical mumbo-jumbo people write when there’s nothing real for them to write about.
I think you’re inferrring my comment to be supportive of the abuse accusations, is that right? Something along the lines of, ‘The rationalist community has a sexist history of aiding abusers and that’s a problem.’ Just want to make clear that I’m not trying to say that at all. I have no idea if there’s more or less abusers among rationalists than the average or if the community is better or worse than most. My only claim here is that women who have some combination of the weird social behaviors that are closely associated with rationality are more susceptible to sexual abuse.
ETA: More on Ialdabaoth, his case is a prime example of the weird failings of people who are somewhat attached to rationalism. They see no problem with 30-40 year old men having depraved sexual relationships with 19 year old women. In fact sometimes they’ll live in the same house with them and not think that behavior is a problem. If they don’t care and don’t see it as their problem that’s fine with me. I’m not asking anybody to be a savior. But the issue is that they don’t see it as a problem at all. Somehow rationalism leads some percentage of folks to entirely forget all the societal knowledge of sexual relations that we’ve gained over the past few centuries.
If you or someone else accused him of sexual assault I never saw it. That might just be because it was out there and I never looked deep enough to find it, or because it didn’t exist. I do remember reading a lot of accusatory posts about Ialdabaoth so I put a higher probability on the latter explanation.
I only saw allegations of manipulative, disgusting, and fetishistic sexual behavior. Never heard an allegation that Ialdabaoth assaulted someone without their consent. I saw the posts and they had the style of saying a bunch of truly disgusting things about Ialdabaoth, but never laying out the components of sexual assault or making that specific accusation. If Ialdabaoth did sexually assault someone, knowledgeable parties should inform local police and direct them to the victims if they haven’t done so already. The statute of limitations certainly hasn’t passed by this time.
It would be pretty easy to solve this if you showed me an example of someone accusing him of sexual assault back a few years ago.
There were fewer times, but probably still dozens, that he didn’t ensure I had a safeword when going into a really heavy scene, or disrespected my safeword when I gave it.
I was also remembering the Ialdaboth situation from a while ago. There were some standard cancel culture sexual harassment accusations made against him. The other posts I was trying to refer to were the leverage and MIRI tirades as you said (I think there were a few separate posts about Leverage?). I didn’t do more than skim any of them so I don’t know if any of them were actually interesting or had any sensible accusations of abuse. I did get the same impression that you did, the posts were terribly written and full of the kinds of mystical mumbo-jumbo people write when there’s nothing real for them to write about.
I think you’re inferrring my comment to be supportive of the abuse accusations, is that right? Something along the lines of, ‘The rationalist community has a sexist history of aiding abusers and that’s a problem.’ Just want to make clear that I’m not trying to say that at all. I have no idea if there’s more or less abusers among rationalists than the average or if the community is better or worse than most. My only claim here is that women who have some combination of the weird social behaviors that are closely associated with rationality are more susceptible to sexual abuse.
ETA: More on Ialdabaoth, his case is a prime example of the weird failings of people who are somewhat attached to rationalism. They see no problem with 30-40 year old men having depraved sexual relationships with 19 year old women. In fact sometimes they’ll live in the same house with them and not think that behavior is a problem. If they don’t care and don’t see it as their problem that’s fine with me. I’m not asking anybody to be a savior. But the issue is that they don’t see it as a problem at all. Somehow rationalism leads some percentage of folks to entirely forget all the societal knowledge of sexual relations that we’ve gained over the past few centuries.
For posterity: Ialdaboth was accused of sexual assault, not harassment, and admitted to the accusations in spirit although didn’t get into specifics.
If you or someone else accused him of sexual assault I never saw it. That might just be because it was out there and I never looked deep enough to find it, or because it didn’t exist. I do remember reading a lot of accusatory posts about Ialdabaoth so I put a higher probability on the latter explanation.
I only saw allegations of manipulative, disgusting, and fetishistic sexual behavior. Never heard an allegation that Ialdabaoth assaulted someone without their consent. I saw the posts and they had the style of saying a bunch of truly disgusting things about Ialdabaoth, but never laying out the components of sexual assault or making that specific accusation. If Ialdabaoth did sexually assault someone, knowledgeable parties should inform local police and direct them to the victims if they haven’t done so already. The statute of limitations certainly hasn’t passed by this time.
It would be pretty easy to solve this if you showed me an example of someone accusing him of sexual assault back a few years ago.
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Ignoring someone’s safeword seems like a straightforward example of sexual assault.