There’s some sense in the PUA literature (and what comes up at SEO optimized blog posts) that they are written for an audience who’s insecure and seeks to learn techniques to gain power over other people. In reality, dealing with one’s own issues is often more important for the outcomes that are sought.
Frame control in the NLP sense is about things like not letting anything that the other person says trigger you. That’s useful in a coaching context for not letting the emotional problems of the coach interfere with the coaching intervention.
I have a few times heard stories of therapists getting angry at their patients for something that the patient said. That’s behavior I wouldn’t expect from anyone I know that’s skilled in NLP. Those people are generally in control of their own emotionals well enough to not switch into a state of anger because something triggers them.
For using principles such as pacing&leading it’s also necessary to have control over the state that you want to apply this towards.
There’s some sense in the PUA literature (and what comes up at SEO optimized blog posts) that they are written for an audience who’s insecure and seeks to learn techniques to gain power over other people. In reality, dealing with one’s own issues is often more important for the outcomes that are sought.
Frame control in the NLP sense is about things like not letting anything that the other person says trigger you. That’s useful in a coaching context for not letting the emotional problems of the coach interfere with the coaching intervention.
I have a few times heard stories of therapists getting angry at their patients for something that the patient said. That’s behavior I wouldn’t expect from anyone I know that’s skilled in NLP. Those people are generally in control of their own emotionals well enough to not switch into a state of anger because something triggers them.
For using principles such as pacing&leading it’s also necessary to have control over the state that you want to apply this towards.