To me your description sounds like on the one hand I would enjoy having a sexual relationship with you and on the other hand, he doesn’t want to damage his relationship with your dad.
To what extent he would let desires overrule his principles of what he thinks respecting your dad is important to him, depends a lot on parts of his personality that you haven’t written about.
I am 99% sure that if I were to lean against him or something while sitting beside him, he would physically draw away from me.
Having done a few calibration exercises, 99% is really a lot and unless you actually tried it, I would not expect it to be reasonable to assess that probability.
One rationality technique would be to actually attach probabilities to the various uncertainties that you have, and see whether you can test some of them without cost like what happens when you lean against him.
There seem to be basically two questions:
If you could just start a friend-with-benefits relationship with him, would you?
If you would try, how likely would it be to work out?
To me your description sounds like on the one hand I would enjoy having a sexual relationship with you and on the other hand, he doesn’t want to damage his relationship with your dad.
To what extent he would let desires overrule his principles of what he thinks respecting your dad is important to him, depends a lot on parts of his personality that you haven’t written about.
Having done a few calibration exercises, 99% is really a lot and unless you actually tried it, I would not expect it to be reasonable to assess that probability.
One rationality technique would be to actually attach probabilities to the various uncertainties that you have, and see whether you can test some of them without cost like what happens when you lean against him.
There seem to be basically two questions:
If you could just start a friend-with-benefits relationship with him, would you?
If you would try, how likely would it be to work out?
You probably want to answer those two separately.