My personal experience with dating apps has been pretty negative. It feels like it’s very hard to effectively filter for people I’d actually be interested in, requiring an enormous amount of dates. That wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing, but dates also feel like a really unnatural and awkward situation to me, since both of you are basically trying to evaluate whether the other person is “good enough” to see again while also trying to act and feel natural. (Basically, “there’s mutual knowledge that you’re both evaluating each other’s compatibility toward your mating goals” is exactly the reason why I don’t like dates.)
So far my experience has been that the organic way of gradually making friends and then possibly turning the friendship into a relationship feels much better and natural. And if you don’t get a partner, you’ll still get a friend. But that’s also a pretty slow method, so I’m kind of stumped about what to do since both approaches seem to have major flaws.
Hmm sounds like you have a procedure to filter people, and the main problem is its inefficiency. Maybe you can design some automated initial screens: like a written portion, a recorded video portion, then one or more video hangouts/dates. Just brainstorming :)
My personal experience with dating apps has been pretty negative. It feels like it’s very hard to effectively filter for people I’d actually be interested in, requiring an enormous amount of dates. That wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing, but dates also feel like a really unnatural and awkward situation to me, since both of you are basically trying to evaluate whether the other person is “good enough” to see again while also trying to act and feel natural. (Basically, “there’s mutual knowledge that you’re both evaluating each other’s compatibility toward your mating goals” is exactly the reason why I don’t like dates.)
So far my experience has been that the organic way of gradually making friends and then possibly turning the friendship into a relationship feels much better and natural. And if you don’t get a partner, you’ll still get a friend. But that’s also a pretty slow method, so I’m kind of stumped about what to do since both approaches seem to have major flaws.
Hmm sounds like you have a procedure to filter people, and the main problem is its inefficiency. Maybe you can design some automated initial screens: like a written portion, a recorded video portion, then one or more video hangouts/dates. Just brainstorming :)