The problem with “try harder” is that it has an unstated implication that “try” is a well-defined action, and it’s about “expend more energy”, and that’s just wrong. All of the things you list (setting alarms, changing environments, using different tools) ARE ways to try harder. Or really, ways to actually try at all. See also https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/fhEPnveFhb9tmd7Pe/use-the-try-harder-luke
Yoda at your kids (and yourself) a bit more. At least for those things where the result matters. For a WHOLE LOT of activities, especially for kids, the result is a small part of the value, and it’s the habits, techniques, and activities that matter. That’s a whole different set of lessons, which “there is no try” won’t help with. The first time your kid outsources schoolwork to someone who’s got a comparative advantage, you’ll be both proud and horrified.
“try harder next time you’re in such-and-such situation” is mediocre advice under the best of circumstances, and terrible advice if it has already been attempted unsuccessfully.
The problem with “try harder” is that it has an unstated implication that “try” is a well-defined action, and it’s about “expend more energy”, and that’s just wrong. All of the things you list (setting alarms, changing environments, using different tools) ARE ways to try harder. Or really, ways to actually try at all. See also https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/fhEPnveFhb9tmd7Pe/use-the-try-harder-luke
Yoda at your kids (and yourself) a bit more. At least for those things where the result matters. For a WHOLE LOT of activities, especially for kids, the result is a small part of the value, and it’s the habits, techniques, and activities that matter. That’s a whole different set of lessons, which “there is no try” won’t help with. The first time your kid outsources schoolwork to someone who’s got a comparative advantage, you’ll be both proud and horrified.
LOL :)
I agree on all counts. I would also say:
“try harder right now” is excellent advice
“try harder next time you’re in such-and-such situation” is mediocre advice under the best of circumstances, and terrible advice if it has already been attempted unsuccessfully.