Yeah, fair enough. Probably was typical-minding. I just want my actions to result in excellent things quickly. And the frustration and demotivation when that is not working out, is something I can relate to. But that’s not perfectionism?
I personally don’t experience all those things you mentioned, though. Sounds downright alien, this guilt thing and all this obsession with shoulds and musts. Or worrying about meeting expectations from boss/God/parents/whatever. It sounds rather exhausting.
Btw, that penultimate line: “Use @byronkaties The Work to explore.” seems out of place. Is that a Twitter-thing?
Ahh yeup must have forgotten to edit that when I ported over from twitter.
Sounds downright alien, this guilt thing and all this obsession with shoulds and musts. Or worrying about meeting expectations from boss/God/parents/whatever. It sounds rather exhausting.
Yeah, it’s very possible that you don’t experience it.
It’s also possible it’s there for you, but in shadow, as talked about in the article. Might be worth spending 10 minutes probing feelings around obligations to see if any sense of “not wanting to look” or “attention being yanked away” comes up, as that’s a good sign that there’s something there you don’t want to acknowledge.
In general though not everyone experiences these sort of feelings so it’s equally possible you’re one of them.
Yeah, fair enough. Probably was typical-minding.
I just want my actions to result in excellent things quickly.
And the frustration and demotivation when that is not working out, is something I can relate to.
But that’s not perfectionism?
I personally don’t experience all those things you mentioned, though.
Sounds downright alien, this guilt thing and all this obsession with shoulds and musts.
Or worrying about meeting expectations from boss/God/parents/whatever.
It sounds rather exhausting.
Btw, that penultimate line: “Use @byronkaties The Work to explore.” seems out of place.
Is that a Twitter-thing?
Ahh yeup must have forgotten to edit that when I ported over from twitter.
Yeah, it’s very possible that you don’t experience it.
It’s also possible it’s there for you, but in shadow, as talked about in the article. Might be worth spending 10 minutes probing feelings around obligations to see if any sense of “not wanting to look” or “attention being yanked away” comes up, as that’s a good sign that there’s something there you don’t want to acknowledge.
In general though not everyone experiences these sort of feelings so it’s equally possible you’re one of them.