his point is that it shouldn’t matter not that it doesn’t matter. Did you until that moment think other people didn’t do that sort of thing because you hadn’t noticed yourself doing it?
Not that you thought that sort of thing is unfair or silly? In which case it kind of sounds like you suddenly upped your estimate of the rewards of conforming to the shitty standard (due to what could be an unusually high tendency to respect people based on their clothing) and decided to call your abandoning the principle “not pretending that stuff doesn’t matter.” Now obviously I think this is a shitty way to be and I’m not going to expand on why but what is simply false is the idea that people who dissaprove of the practice of wearing e.g. suits to impress are pretending stuff like that doesn’t matter.
I’m completing the pattern here: I’m not sure if that’s what you meant. But other people might read it like that and a lot of people would use those words to express that sentiment and I really don’t like that sentiment. Hence the comment.
There probably are people who pretend stuff like that doesn’t matter but i assume it would have to be just as a soldier argument against people judging people for wearing businessman (or other) costumes or respecting others for doing so. Because, obviously it does matter, right? People discuss these kinds of judgements openly and without shame to the point of internalisation. The only other way that comes immediately to mind to not think it mattered would be to not come across people like that in positions of power (edit: over you) which I’m pretty sure is really rare.
same-edit: but in any case they could notice that this effected other people.
Not sure what you’re getting at. My comment looks to me like it was voicing agreement to his conclusion from my experience. I have no feelings of “that’s as it should be” or “that’s stupid” wrt to the fashion thing, it’s just how it is.
Before I had that experience, I didn’t think dress mattered all that much. Now I do. Looking back at my cognitive state and justification for believing what I believed, it looks like I was pretending it didn’t matter, at least on some level.
his point is that it shouldn’t matter not that it doesn’t matter. Did you until that moment think other people didn’t do that sort of thing because you hadn’t noticed yourself doing it?
Not that you thought that sort of thing is unfair or silly? In which case it kind of sounds like you suddenly upped your estimate of the rewards of conforming to the shitty standard (due to what could be an unusually high tendency to respect people based on their clothing) and decided to call your abandoning the principle “not pretending that stuff doesn’t matter.” Now obviously I think this is a shitty way to be and I’m not going to expand on why but what is simply false is the idea that people who dissaprove of the practice of wearing e.g. suits to impress are pretending stuff like that doesn’t matter.
I’m completing the pattern here: I’m not sure if that’s what you meant. But other people might read it like that and a lot of people would use those words to express that sentiment and I really don’t like that sentiment. Hence the comment.
There probably are people who pretend stuff like that doesn’t matter but i assume it would have to be just as a soldier argument against people judging people for wearing businessman (or other) costumes or respecting others for doing so. Because, obviously it does matter, right? People discuss these kinds of judgements openly and without shame to the point of internalisation. The only other way that comes immediately to mind to not think it mattered would be to not come across people like that in positions of power (edit: over you) which I’m pretty sure is really rare.
same-edit: but in any case they could notice that this effected other people.
Not sure what you’re getting at. My comment looks to me like it was voicing agreement to his conclusion from my experience. I have no feelings of “that’s as it should be” or “that’s stupid” wrt to the fashion thing, it’s just how it is.
Before I had that experience, I didn’t think dress mattered all that much. Now I do. Looking back at my cognitive state and justification for believing what I believed, it looks like I was pretending it didn’t matter, at least on some level.