Agreed that responding to criticism is important, but I think it’s especially beneficial to respond only to non-nasty criticism. Responding nicely to people who are behaving like jerks can create an atmosphere where jerkiness is encouraged.
This is the internet, though; skins are assumed to be tough. There is some benefit to saying “It looks like you wanted to say ‘X’. Please try to be less nasty next time. Here’s why I don’t agree with X” instead of just “wow, you’re nasty.”
Agreed that responding to criticism is important, but I think it’s especially beneficial to respond only to non-nasty criticism. Responding nicely to people who are behaving like jerks can create an atmosphere where jerkiness is encouraged.
This is the internet, though; skins are assumed to be tough. There is some benefit to saying “It looks like you wanted to say ‘X’. Please try to be less nasty next time. Here’s why I don’t agree with X” instead of just “wow, you’re nasty.”
I have noted that trying to take that sort of response seems to lead to negative consequences more often than not.
Our experiences disagree, then; I can think of many plausible explanations that leave both of us justified, so I will leave it at this.