Having a functional model of what will be approved by other people is very useful. I would hardly say that it “has nothing to do with reality.” I think much of the trauma of my own childhood would have been completely avoided if I had been able to pull that off. Alas! Pity to my 9-year-old-self trying to convince the other children they were wrong.
Sure, the functional model of predicting other people’s approval is great. The problem with what I did is organize all of the beliefs by situation. These things aren’t tied to Reality. They are tied to perceptions. It would be the equivalent of claiming your belief system should be a Map of other people’s Maps of the Territory. When none of the people around you are terribly concerned about mapping the territory, your map won’t be either.
Building a worldview based on other peoples’ approvals results in a worldview with all of the problems of those peoples. It makes a child’s life easier because a child doesn’t need to understand reality. At least, not the way a non-child does.
Having a functional model of what will be approved by other people is very useful. I would hardly say that it “has nothing to do with reality.” I think much of the trauma of my own childhood would have been completely avoided if I had been able to pull that off. Alas! Pity to my 9-year-old-self trying to convince the other children they were wrong.
Sure, the functional model of predicting other people’s approval is great. The problem with what I did is organize all of the beliefs by situation. These things aren’t tied to Reality. They are tied to perceptions. It would be the equivalent of claiming your belief system should be a Map of other people’s Maps of the Territory. When none of the people around you are terribly concerned about mapping the territory, your map won’t be either.
Building a worldview based on other peoples’ approvals results in a worldview with all of the problems of those peoples. It makes a child’s life easier because a child doesn’t need to understand reality. At least, not the way a non-child does.