Thank you, that was a very helpful explanation for me. It’s posts like these that make me thankful you contribute here, even as we’ve had our differences in the past.
Reading it, I thnk I can interpret a past experience in a new light, in which I was, long ago, asked to leave a large NT-dominated club, for (what seemed like) kafkaesque reasons which were criticisms of my behavior they couldn’t rationally justify. In particular, how I was told that far more people had a negative reaction to me than I had ever interacted with. I had heard third-hand (though from a trusted source) that it was because someone passed around a false, serious accusation that they never told me about.
But looking back, the explanation that there was a dog/cat expectation barrier makes a lot of sense of the way they treated me, which was not just vicious, but bizarre. (I think that NTs would agree that some my treatment was wrong, even from an NT perspective, but believe that the my reaction to it escalated the conflict, drawing out my different behavior.)
PS: Whoever voted the parent down, I request an explanation.
No. As I keep pointing out, there is a group of posters on LW strongly opposed to this frank discussion of the real governing factors behind sociality, such as those discovered by the PUA community. We need to have a similarly open discussion of what drives people who want to keep such helpful comments as pjeby’s above from being made.
Since I’m not out to punish the comment, or feel threatened by it, but just want to understand the various positions regarding this issue, it is not “cat like”.
It may be a moot point though, as I may have been mistaken in thinking that anyone downvoted pjeby’s comment; I had voted it up, then shortly after saw it at zero. I inferred that someone must have downvoted and canceled my vote, but given the quirks we’ve seen with the codebase, there’s a good chance it may have just been a case of the site briefly not reflecting my vote, meaning it’s still possible no one voted it down.
Thank you, that was a very helpful explanation for me. It’s posts like these that make me thankful you contribute here, even as we’ve had our differences in the past.
Reading it, I thnk I can interpret a past experience in a new light, in which I was, long ago, asked to leave a large NT-dominated club, for (what seemed like) kafkaesque reasons which were criticisms of my behavior they couldn’t rationally justify. In particular, how I was told that far more people had a negative reaction to me than I had ever interacted with. I had heard third-hand (though from a trusted source) that it was because someone passed around a false, serious accusation that they never told me about.
But looking back, the explanation that there was a dog/cat expectation barrier makes a lot of sense of the way they treated me, which was not just vicious, but bizarre. (I think that NTs would agree that some my treatment was wrong, even from an NT perspective, but believe that the my reaction to it escalated the conflict, drawing out my different behavior.)
PS: Whoever voted the parent down, I request an explanation.
Am I correct in thinking that sensitivity to a downvote like this is “cat” like?
No. As I keep pointing out, there is a group of posters on LW strongly opposed to this frank discussion of the real governing factors behind sociality, such as those discovered by the PUA community. We need to have a similarly open discussion of what drives people who want to keep such helpful comments as pjeby’s above from being made.
Since I’m not out to punish the comment, or feel threatened by it, but just want to understand the various positions regarding this issue, it is not “cat like”.
It may be a moot point though, as I may have been mistaken in thinking that anyone downvoted pjeby’s comment; I had voted it up, then shortly after saw it at zero. I inferred that someone must have downvoted and canceled my vote, but given the quirks we’ve seen with the codebase, there’s a good chance it may have just been a case of the site briefly not reflecting my vote, meaning it’s still possible no one voted it down.