I don’t think I got visibly hurt or angry. In fact, when I did it, I was feeling more tempted than angry. I was in the middle of a conversation with another guy, and her rear appeared nearby, and I couldn’t resist.
It made me seem like a jerk, which is bad, but not necessarily low status. Acting without apparent fear of the consequences, even stupidly, is often respected as long as you get away with it.
Another factor is that this was a ‘high status’ woman. I’m not sure but she might be related to a celebrity. (I didn’t know that at the time.) Hence, any story linking me and her may be ‘bad publicity’ for me but there is the old saying ‘there’s no such thing as bad publicity’.
Acting without apparent fear of the consequences, even stupidly, is often respected as long as you get away with it.
That’s true only if you manage to maintain the absolute no-apologies attitude. If you had to apologize about it, it’s automatically a major fail. (Not trying to put you down, just giving you a realistic perspective.)
I don’t think I got visibly hurt or angry. In fact, when I did it, I was feeling more tempted than angry. I was in the middle of a conversation with another guy, and her rear appeared nearby, and I couldn’t resist.
It made me seem like a jerk, which is bad, but not necessarily low status. Acting without apparent fear of the consequences, even stupidly, is often respected as long as you get away with it.
Another factor is that this was a ‘high status’ woman. I’m not sure but she might be related to a celebrity. (I didn’t know that at the time.) Hence, any story linking me and her may be ‘bad publicity’ for me but there is the old saying ‘there’s no such thing as bad publicity’.
But you didn’t get away with it.
Also, technically, you acted like a creep, not a jerk. (A jerk acts boldly, a creep is sneaky and opportunistic.)
I wasn’t sneaky about it.
That’s true only if you manage to maintain the absolute no-apologies attitude. If you had to apologize about it, it’s automatically a major fail. (Not trying to put you down, just giving you a realistic perspective.)