Would people just let a man grabbing a woman and spanking her happen?
He didn’t say “grabbing”, and in context, I’d guess that by “spanking” he meant a single swat to the buttocks.
The story is so far off from my priors of how people behave that I think the possibility that it isn’t true should be considered.
It says more that you don’t get out much, or aren’t very observant when you do. I don’t get out much, and never got out much, even during the brief few years when I was both single and of age, and such a story as this one is so utterly mundane and commonplace in its elements as to seem scarcely worthy of comment in the first place.
Most guys that protest such behavior from women make some other form of scene than swatting, of course, and most simply whine to their buddies or suffer in silence rather than make a scene at all. But apart from that, it’s an utterly ordinary story, and observable many, many times a night in any “meet market” where the women go to dance and drink, funded by deluded potential suitors.
Hey, I never thought of that— having a designated person to come over and break up a fight is probably more valuable than a naive analysis would reckon, not even counting the other security benefits.
I’m wondering if it’s a true story. The part about the drink is conceivable. I’d be surprised if the woman’s behavior is at all common,. though.
The violence..… where is there enough privacy at a bar to spank someone?
I didn’t get the impression that the spanking was done in privacy.
You think he lied about the story?
If it wasn’t done in privacy, then I understand my culture less than I thought.
Would people just let a man grabbing a woman and spanking her happen? No one calls the police? There’s no bouncer?
If the glass of wine was expensive, this isn’t an extremely sleazy bar, if that matters.
The story is so far off from my priors of how people behave that I think the possibility that it isn’t true should be considered.
He didn’t say “grabbing”, and in context, I’d guess that by “spanking” he meant a single swat to the buttocks.
It says more that you don’t get out much, or aren’t very observant when you do. I don’t get out much, and never got out much, even during the brief few years when I was both single and of age, and such a story as this one is so utterly mundane and commonplace in its elements as to seem scarcely worthy of comment in the first place.
Most guys that protest such behavior from women make some other form of scene than swatting, of course, and most simply whine to their buddies or suffer in silence rather than make a scene at all. But apart from that, it’s an utterly ordinary story, and observable many, many times a night in any “meet market” where the women go to dance and drink, funded by deluded potential suitors.
I agree that “spanking” is ambiguous, and a single hit would be plausible.
It’s true that I don’t get out much in that sense—I don’t like loud noise (as in really hate it) or drunk people.
Probably.
Bouncers are a way to get around the bystander effect.
Hey, I never thought of that— having a designated person to come over and break up a fight is probably more valuable than a naive analysis would reckon, not even counting the other security benefits.