imagine each person P has a number X, called their “statusvalue”, and the way we respond to others is a function of the statusvalue difference between us
I completely understand the general idea here, I just think the drink-buying thing is a bad example. In my experience, refusal to buy a drink for someone who’s flirting with you doesn’t send the signal “you’re X statusvalue lower than me”, it sends the signal “I’m not interested in playing this game at all”
I completely understand the general idea here, I just think the drink-buying thing is a bad example. In my experience, refusal to buy a drink for someone who’s flirting with you doesn’t send the signal “you’re X statusvalue lower than me”, it sends the signal “I’m not interested in playing this game at all”
I think you’re misunderstanding the “refusal.” It’s not a “No, go away,” it’s more like “you buy me one first, I’m cuter” said playfully.