Ohh, I see what you’re saying. I guess I won’t object if you decide that you don’t want to use the word “creep” to describe this guy, but I’m guessing the word originated not from the stealthy behavior of the creep, but the sensation of the person experiencing the feeling of creepiness. Because a creepy feeling is a type of growing discomfort that it’s hard to pinpoint the source of. Even in horror movies, a place can be creepy because you feel like something bad is going to happen, but you don’t quite know why. And indeed, it takes the narrator some thinking before he’s able to figure out what made this guy’s approach so much more disturbing than the usual attention he’s received from gay guys before.
I’m not sure how big the issue surrounding “creep” is actually a language issue, but I think part of what’s happening is that the meaning of words drift slowly enough for people to notice. For example, I have a tendency to disagree when people tell me that “lame” is ableist language, because I always think of lame as referring to jokes and maybe occasionally pack animals and … never people. I think the usage of that word has drifted away from people, but there are enough vocal people who are still sensitive about it. (And I guess I would try to not use it around those people anyway.)
So I guess I would conclude that when you hear other people use the word creep, they probably mean “a nebulous source of discomfort that I can’t quite place” rather than “an agent deliberately trying to cause me discomfort”, which is definitely pretty broad, but maybe a lot less accusatory than the latter?
EDIT: Just to be extra pedantic, here are somelinks! :)
Ohh, I see what you’re saying. I guess I won’t object if you decide that you don’t want to use the word “creep” to describe this guy, but I’m guessing the word originated not from the stealthy behavior of the creep, but the sensation of the person experiencing the feeling of creepiness. Because a creepy feeling is a type of growing discomfort that it’s hard to pinpoint the source of. Even in horror movies, a place can be creepy because you feel like something bad is going to happen, but you don’t quite know why. And indeed, it takes the narrator some thinking before he’s able to figure out what made this guy’s approach so much more disturbing than the usual attention he’s received from gay guys before.
I’m not sure how big the issue surrounding “creep” is actually a language issue, but I think part of what’s happening is that the meaning of words drift slowly enough for people to notice. For example, I have a tendency to disagree when people tell me that “lame” is ableist language, because I always think of lame as referring to jokes and maybe occasionally pack animals and … never people. I think the usage of that word has drifted away from people, but there are enough vocal people who are still sensitive about it. (And I guess I would try to not use it around those people anyway.)
So I guess I would conclude that when you hear other people use the word creep, they probably mean “a nebulous source of discomfort that I can’t quite place” rather than “an agent deliberately trying to cause me discomfort”, which is definitely pretty broad, but maybe a lot less accusatory than the latter?
EDIT: Just to be extra pedantic, here are some links! :)