A lot of the responses here may tacitly assume that Submitter D or any other woman in her position “should” give all these geeks and nerds a fair or even shake. But should she?
EDIT: When I wrote the above I was most influenced by this thread of comments which is a discussion where women who say no to men are characterized as “bitches” and otherwise in the wrong. I’m leaving the original wording in place because there are a few comments which refer to it, but I do recognize that many of the responses here do not make the assumption I spelled out above.
That’s most definitely not at all what my friends whom I paraphrased in that comment were thinking of.
I just reread that entire thread and I see what you mean. These commenters were really commenting on a woman who did not communicate her disinterest but simply stopped communicating.
I think I am guilty of projection, of having my own powerful issues around attraction and rejection, and seeing them in other places even when they are not there. This is great info for me to have, that this issue is still so alive in me that it warps my ability to even read. Since I am very recently separated, I may actually be able to use this information.
I hate romantic rejection SO MUCH. I think it totally warps me.
That’s most definitely not at all what my friends whom I paraphrased in that comment were thinking of.
I just reread that entire thread and I see what you mean. These commenters were really commenting on a woman who did not communicate her disinterest but simply stopped communicating.
I think I am guilty of projection, of having my own powerful issues around attraction and rejection, and seeing them in other places even when they are not there. This is great info for me to have, that this issue is still so alive in me that it warps my ability to even read. Since I am very recently separated, I may actually be able to use this information.
I hate romantic rejection SO MUCH. I think it totally warps me.