I have no idea who the men and women in Less Wrong are. Even if I’m told I don’t care enough to remember. To the extent that I gender people, it’s based on usernames; your username comes across as male to me, which makes your comment come across as a little silly.
I’m making my judgment of what is called creepy based on what I’ve heard it used to describe in real life. In my family, it was exclusively used to describe people who come across as wrong; who have this unidentifiable aura of wrongness which wasn’t necessarily tied to behavior. One such individual, who we had long described as creepy, killed his daughter. (He deliberately got in a car wreck; it was an attempted murder-suicide.) Outside my family, I’ve heard it used to describe a pretty wide range of things. “Creep” is in fact a commonly-used word to describe men who fail miserably at legitimate attempts at socialization.
I’ve stopped using the word “creepy” to describe people. It didn’t fit common usage. I refer to these people now as “off,” or “not right.” I prefer the word creepy, but it doesn’t convey the meaning I intend it to convey, so I dropped it. I’m sympathetic to people who use it to refer to a feeling of wrongness in a fellow human being, but I’m not going to privilege their definition.
I have no idea who the men and women in Less Wrong are. Even if I’m told I don’t care enough to remember. To the extent that I gender people, it’s based on usernames; your username comes across as male to me, which makes your comment come across as a little silly.
I’m making my judgment of what is called creepy based on what I’ve heard it used to describe in real life. In my family, it was exclusively used to describe people who come across as wrong; who have this unidentifiable aura of wrongness which wasn’t necessarily tied to behavior. One such individual, who we had long described as creepy, killed his daughter. (He deliberately got in a car wreck; it was an attempted murder-suicide.) Outside my family, I’ve heard it used to describe a pretty wide range of things. “Creep” is in fact a commonly-used word to describe men who fail miserably at legitimate attempts at socialization.
I’ve stopped using the word “creepy” to describe people. It didn’t fit common usage. I refer to these people now as “off,” or “not right.” I prefer the word creepy, but it doesn’t convey the meaning I intend it to convey, so I dropped it. I’m sympathetic to people who use it to refer to a feeling of wrongness in a fellow human being, but I’m not going to privilege their definition.