A lot of the responses here may tacitly assume that Submitter D or any other woman in her position “should” give all these geeks and nerds a fair or even shake. But should she?
Huh. I’ve seen a fair share of Nice Guy™ism on the Web, but very little in this thread.
When I am looking to get my house cleaned, I don’t believe I need to equally consider the thousands of possible house cleaners out there. My effort is optimized by investigating at most a few housekeepers and picking one that I think will do.
(I immediately came up with a couple reasons why this analogy breaks down, but neither of them actually apply to LW meetups, where men largely outnumber women and a sizeable fraction of people are polyamorous.)
Indeed, in my case I take whoever my sister or my cousin, who are both way more interested in this kind of thing than I, suggest.
The problem with that is that it can generate nasty information cascades.
Huh. I’ve seen a fair share of Nice Guy™ism on the Web, but very little in this thread.
(I immediately came up with a couple reasons why this analogy breaks down, but neither of them actually apply to LW meetups, where men largely outnumber women and a sizeable fraction of people are polyamorous.)
The problem with that is that it can generate nasty information cascades.
I agree with the rest of the comment.