there’s nothing to lose from an unsuccessful approach
This is mostly correct, conditional on following ‘good practices’ when approaching (and an aspiring PUA will want to do this anyway,in order to minimize effort and maximize the probability of being successful). Basically, the unstated assumption is that if you manage to freak out your ‘target’, you’re most likely doing something very, very wrong. It’s not just a numbers game.
I agree with your point about always “leaving a line of retreat”. AIUI, this is actively discussed in good PUA advice.
Line of retreat is also discussed by feminists (and I advocate it as well, and always make sure to explicitly include it.)
Also ties into the complaint of some woman (source not remembered) who seemed to be coming from a feminist framework, who complained about nerdy men who became too attached too quickly so that saying no became too costly to say to somebody she respected.
This is mostly correct, conditional on following ‘good practices’ when approaching (and an aspiring PUA will want to do this anyway,in order to minimize effort and maximize the probability of being successful). Basically, the unstated assumption is that if you manage to freak out your ‘target’, you’re most likely doing something very, very wrong. It’s not just a numbers game.
I agree with your point about always “leaving a line of retreat”. AIUI, this is actively discussed in good PUA advice.
Line of retreat is also discussed by feminists (and I advocate it as well, and always make sure to explicitly include it.)
Also ties into the complaint of some woman (source not remembered) who seemed to be coming from a feminist framework, who complained about nerdy men who became too attached too quickly so that saying no became too costly to say to somebody she respected.